I've told you already and you haven't listened. You are concentrating too much on the physical realm. I'm going to rub this in. When we are born of the Spirit we are given a new spiritual life which has desires of holiness. The desires of holiness are much stronger than the desires of the flesh. This why it is written "Ye are of God dear children for greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world". It will just take some time for you to become strong in the spirit, but don't give up, walking the path of straight and narrow is like walking a tight rope, it takes practice and persistence.
Look at these verses:
What does it mean to crucify your flesh and all it's desires? Put it to death, painful as it might be, you need to step out of the physical realm and into the spiritual. Do you think your love for Nicole is physical or spiritual? Do you get emotional at the thought of her?
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My love for Nicole was in the beginning spiritual as I had no desire for her. But now I do get emotional at the thought of her.. i see the change.
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Again Paul says here that we can only have spiritual life with God if we put to death the desires of the body.
See the words I underlined? You are desiring Nicole with your body. It consumes every thought of your brain. You need to turn that energy toward Jesus. Christians are called to be the bride of Jesus, that means that we love Him first and foremost, and everything else in life is just additional.
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Yes at the moment every thought is consumed by her. I dont want it to be in fact I have prayed for God to stop those thoughts, take her from my mind and my heart.
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Again, Jesus says the same thing, we have to deny our self in order to follow Him:
What do you think it means to be Christian? That everything will go your way? You'll get through life with no bumps along the way? It actually means you must live for Jesus' sake, and you will give anything to do that, even if it means crucifixion. We have it so easy in modern western cultures, there has never been a better time and place to be Christian. So ask yourself, I mean really take some time to think about this: what can you do for Jesus instead of asking what can Jesus do for you.
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I never thought that life would be easy with or without Christ. Just a little easier with Him. Life has become easier in a way.. Depression is not really there.. it is but it has been modified by God. The last question .. what can I do .. I have not been asking and I admit that. This is a place where my prayers will change because i need it to and I need to start working for Jesus not me.
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Anyway, the point I'm making is that you are at war against your body. Your body is telling you that you want this girl and your flesh's desire has consumed you, your every thought has been consumed by the desire to have a life partner. Most of it has been an emotional type of love, that is definitely what it means to live by the flesh.
When you think about it, why do you love her more than anyone else? Isn't everyone just another person like yourself in a different body with a different history? Aren't we meant to treat each other as though we were Jesus Christ Himself?
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I love her more than anyone else because we are kindred spirits, we have so much in common in our daily lives, but it has changed, she has walked off the path. I have partly as well..i can see this now. Yes we are meant to treat everyone as if they are Jesus Christ himself and I did not see that till now. Thank you. I have been blind... so blind
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When you get to know Jesus you will love everyone as a brother and a sister, you will even love strangers! Remember how I loved you from the first post I read of you? You have to let Nicole go, if you are truly going to put Jesus first you have to trust
everything to Him. If Jesus wants to bring you together again it is not going to happen by your own efforts, it will just happen. Jesus has a way of making things happen miraculously.
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I know and knew this and yet I tried and because I didnt trust it to Jesus I failed and lost her completely. My love for people is almost boundless, i very seldom think negatively about others, when I do I catch it and apologise to God for it because I know it is wrong. My main problem is towards me, though that is getting better, or rather was. It will again.
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I say you need to do that alpha course, you need to devote your whole life to Jesus and you need to get to know Him as a personal friend. That means to pray to Him, ask Him to be your king, and let every thought be about Him. He is a king, the King of all kings in fact, but He is humble enough to be a friend to little old you and me. How many kings are friends with commoners? Think about the king of the universe making friends with a commoner! Our Lord is so deserving of worship that words just cannot express it enough.
You know that He wants you to have that joy you felt just a few days ago. Joy is promised to us:
Jesus has given us a commandment: seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, everything else will be added. Pull that verse apart and understand it: what does it mean to "seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness"? There are so many people who are confused about God they think He is tyrannical and they think He is false. It is our responsibility to correct people so they know He is real and that He is righteous. We need to help people come to love Him and worship Him, because anyone who has life is going to want the perfect life, and what can be more perfect than what He has promised us in Revelation 21?
Once you have devoted your life to living for God's sake then He will just make everything else work out for you. Sometimes it might work out differently than you would expect, but take God's wisdom with a grain of salt and you'll really be able to trust Him. That's all you can do is trust Him and live honestly.
Respect Nicole's decision and because you respect her she may come to feel sorry for what she has done to you.
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I do respect her decision even if I dont understand it.. I am beginning to understand. I didnt respect it but I do now. I have always respected her.. always. I dont think she will be back unless she gets a message to do so from God
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Just be aware of what I told you earlier, when the light is shone upon you, either you will come to it or cower from it, so take some time to think about what I've said here and make a careful decision. Making the wrong decision and choosing to get angry at God is very harmful. It is important to be wise, ask God to show you what wisdom is, and ask Him to show you why Nicole has decided not to get too close for now. Maybe all it will take is a ring to change her mind, who knows?