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i would prefer to like women my own age but god does not grant this wish of mine even though I ask him for 3 years.
Instead I am depressed as I've no friends or people who care about me and no girl like me.

I stopped being attracted to women 3 year ago (I 19 now) and now my life is bad since. I get sad every time I appreciate a good looking person who isn't a woman my age. I don't think I'm gay but I have fear of it because others think I am.

Also I have a little cousin of different nationality to me who is 12. I think she is cute with her mannerisms and and Spanish accent. Why can't god let me have a cute Spanish/French wife my own age who is like my cousin but not my cousin for obvious reason. My cousin is kind and endearing but I need friends my own age as I have none. Even my dad make fun of me for having no friends and called me ugly.
 

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i would prefer to like women my own age but god does not grant this wish of mine even though I ask him for 3 years.
Instead I am depressed as I've no friends or people who care about me and no girl like me.

I stopped being attracted to women 3 year ago (I 19 now) and now my life is bad since. I get sad every time I appreciate a good looking person who isn't a woman my age. I don't think I'm gay but I have fear of it because others think I am.

Also I have a little cousin of different nationality to me who is 12. I think she is cute with her mannerisms and and Spanish accent. Why can't god let me have a cute Spanish/French wife my own age who is like my cousin but not my cousin for obvious reason. My cousin is kind and endearing but I need friends my own age as I have none. Even my dad make fun of me for having no friends and called me ugly.

Since when not being interested in girls directly equates to liking guys? Don't even go that route.

Instead, focus on desiring the things of God, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Meanwhile, work on being the individual God calls you to be because that will eventually attract the woman you desire to be with. You have a world of information to gain skills from and improve yourself with, you have a earth full of humans and animals to interact with and be a blessing to, there's more to this life than the limiting view of how single you are, and you bring on more value than you give yourself credit to.

You have this life to live and then its eternity, what man calls you is soooo trivia to what God purpose in you. Prioritize your time. Don't waste it with anxiety.
 
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Since when not being interested in girls directly equates to liking guys? Don't even go that route.

Instead, focus on desiring the things of God, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Meanwhile, work on being the individual God calls you to be because that will eventually attract the woman you desire to be with. You have a world of information to gain skills from and improve yourself with, you have a earth full of humans and animals to interact with and be a blessing to, there's more to this life than the limiting view of how single you are, and you bring on more value than you give yourself credit to.

You have this life to live and then its eternity, what man calls you is soooo trivia to what God purpose in you. Prioritize your time. Don't waste it with anxiety.
You are nice person. Thank you.
 
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Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV

[5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

[6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

You need not worry about a wife, God will provide as He always has. Just continue to fast and pray for a woman of God.

It would be advisable to ignore the remarks of those around you; describing you as one with homosexual tendencies. The devil is likely to use these remarks against you in you Spiritual Walk with God.

I will also pray for you, brother.
God Bless you, and may He provide a Godly, Spanish wife for you.

[P.S - Your Earthly father is wrong, you are beautiful. God has made you in His image. He has placed you in this world - you are worth more than diamonds and gold to Him and to us. May God Almighty Bless you forever].

Yours Sincerely ~
Yours Sisterly~
~ Purity Clarity Parkes
 
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Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV

[5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

[6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

You need not worry about a wife, God will provide as He always has. Just continue to fast and pray for a woman of God.

It would be advisable to ignore the remarks of those around you; describing you as one with homosexual tendencies. The devil is likely to use these remarks against you in you Spiritual Walk with God.

I will also pray for you, brother.
God Bless you, and may He provide a Godly, Spanish wife for you.

[P.S - Your Earthly father is wrong, you are beautiful. God has made you in His image. He has placed you in this world - you are worth more than diamonds and gold to Him and to us. May God Almighty Bless you forever].

Yours Sincerely ~
Yours Sisterly~
~ Purity Clarity Parkes
:)
 
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