I think it's interesting that some pastors have a soft soothing voice and they can have large followings, while other preachers take a more fire-and-brimstone approach and they also have large flocks. It's always been this way. It takes both kinds of Christians.
The eye cannot say to the hand, "I have no need of you" Cor1 12:21.
Some like a warm, friendly approach, others appreciate confrontation. I personally don't see how we hammer out wrong ideas without confronting them. As sure as Satan's philosophy finds its way onto this forum, is as sure that it needs to be confronted. Then see which remains standing?
Jesus said a kind word turns away wrath, but he also turned out the money changers and said he was bringing a sword. Not a sword of steel, but the word which cuts deeper than steel. Both approaches seem necessary. Both are found on this forum.
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