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lol - I would look at my wife askew if suddenly she started using those terms.
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As a man and husband who has been a believer since early childhood, and the son of a mysognistic pastor, I would get very upset with my wife if she ever tried to call me that, or even act like that was the case.But one thing he really doesn't like, is when I call him lord or master, like it says to do in 1 Peter 3. He will respond that he's egalitarian, I'm not his property or slave, and that my wishes matter just as much as his, so none of that lord/master stuff.
Hi. Conservative Christian female here married to a non-theistic male. We met at a time when I wasn't in the faith (2004).
Since I returned to the faith in 2005, husband has respected my need for faith. I currently attend (and have been confirmed by) a Missouri Synod Lutheran church, have regular prayer time and study, and he's fine with all of this. A couple of years ago, he even volunteered with me for a time for a homeless ministry when I attended a different church (Calvary Chapel). He also even likes it when I call myself his helpmeet, and enjoys the protective role.
But one thing he really doesn't like, is when I call him lord or master, like it says to do in 1 Peter 3. He will respond that he's egalitarian, I'm not his property or slave, and that my wishes matter just as much as his, so none of that lord/master stuff.
Is it best to just not bring this up anymore? I know wives are to be submissive, yet first to God, and then to husbands. In this case, I'm wondering how to combine the two. Perhaps it would be most sensible to find a "middle road" and continue to act as the submissive wife who views husband as lord/master, without actually bringing it up verbally, so as to avoid annoying him?
Thoughts?
I think of myself as head of our household, yet would be very upset if my wife called me “Lord” or “Master”, since we both share one Lord and Master Jesus Christ. My spiritual headship is not one of superiority, but rather as a servant leader, as when Christ washed His disciples’ feet. Some decisions are left to me (unavoidable in some cases), but they are always made with consultation of my wife and generally with her consent, and with her wellbeing in mind, and in love (except when, in my sinfulness, I fail to meet that standard).Hi. Conservative Christian female here married to a non-theistic male. We met at a time when I wasn't in the faith (2004).
Since I returned to the faith in 2005, husband has respected my need for faith. I currently attend (and have been confirmed by) a Missouri Synod Lutheran church, have regular prayer time and study, and he's fine with all of this. A couple of years ago, he even volunteered with me for a time for a homeless ministry when I attended a different church (Calvary Chapel). He also even likes it when I call myself his helpmeet, and enjoys the protective role.
But one thing he really doesn't like, is when I call him lord or master, like it says to do in 1 Peter 3. He will respond that he's egalitarian, I'm not his property or slave, and that my wishes matter just as much as his, so none of that lord/master stuff.
Is it best to just not bring this up anymore? I know wives are to be submissive, yet first to God, and then to husbands. In this case, I'm wondering how to combine the two. Perhaps it would be most sensible to find a "middle road" and continue to act as the submissive wife who views husband as lord/master, without actually bringing it up verbally, so as to avoid annoying him?
Thoughts?
That is idolatry. "No other Gods before Me ...""We are one flesh. When Daniel speaks into my life I listen in the same way I would listen if it were Jesus Christ talking to me. My dear husband IS Jesus speaking into my life!"
The view of the second seems quite dangerous spiritually. Dave already mentioned a good point, and I concur. After reading the whole article, I felt a total sense of unrightness - of spiritual danger for any woman that follows her direction to put all of our trust in our husbands believing that they are our connection to God. Check out Psalms 118 and Psalms 146.I mentioned Voddie Baucham earlier. It's interesting that his daughter, Jasmine Holmes, is increasingly distancing herself from the lord/master literalism she was taught in the Stay At Home Daughter movement (cult?), and has written quite a few articles in the last two years about how 'embarrassing' her connection to that sort of thinking is to her now. Her most recent article on the subject:
https://www.fathommag.com/stories/so-you-hate-biblical-womanhood
"I do believe my husband is the head of our household. But I also believe that responsibility ought to be defined as it has been historically: “A divinely sanctioned office that conferred a duty to represent not his own individual interests, but those of the entire household” (Total Truth, Nancy Pearcey).
That is to say, this household is oriented around how the Holmes family can best serve God, not how Mrs. Holmes can best serve Mr. Holmes. Because, honestly, who does that guy think he is?
It is not glorifying to God to take an extreme view of Paul’s Ephesians 5 analogy, such that your husband literally takes the place of Jesus. It’s idolatrous. Paul gave us an analogy and treating it as one puts our husbands back in proper perspective. But you can’t get there by hiding from hard questions and labeling them as inherently rebellious."
Contrast that with the views of this woman:
http://www.ephrataministries.org/remnant-2002-01-my-Lord-and-my-lord.a5w
"We are one flesh. When Daniel speaks into my life I listen in the same way I would listen if it were Jesus Christ talking to me. My dear husband IS Jesus speaking into my life!"