- Feb 24, 2020
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My husband and I have been together for going on 14 years. It hasn't been easy to say the least. There are a few recurring issues, him and other women, lying, making everything my fault, deception and making me question my sanity to hide the truth of what he is really doing.
He is always lying trying to make me believe that everything is okay in our relationship and it's not. I know women always think there is something wrong, but everything is not okay. We don't pray together, we don't read the Bible together. Everything is my fault. He doesn't want to acknowledge his wrongs, there is always an excuse. He is not a good leader, almost everything is up to me.
We have been together since we were 17 and 18, he has told me he has a lust for women. He has cheated numerous times before, I think he is still cheating, whether it is emotionally or physically.
I also know my wrongs, but I just want to know the truth. I don't know how to fake a smile or suppress my emotions and the way I feel for him and just love him no matter what. I want to stand up for myself. I am tired of everything seeming likes it is my fault. Mentally that is hard for me to deal with. I can't function somedays, I cry, I think about him, what is he doing, is he lying.
I am at this point of I don't want to hear him tell me he loves me or his flattery. I don't want him touching me or be intimate with him. He probably doesn't want to hear from me either, because my attitude is not consistent. Because I always think he is up to something, being suspicious of him. When he lies or is trying to get over on me, he becomes real sweet.
How do I do this? Is the only answer prayer? What can I do to protect myself? How can I stand up for myself? Or do I have to submit to him doing all of this?
We have been talking about friendship and when I directly ask him about us being friends, he always diverts, or answer my question with a question. Anytime I ask him about the women he is talking to, I get threaten like I am going to tell someone or he makes me feel bad. I honestly don't care who he tells, he could get on the microphone at church and say something. Then I am apologizing and have anxiety about if he is going to stop showing me affection, stop showing me attention. I guess this is his way of having me, so he can continue to do what he wants. Should I just let him? What should I say to him?
He is always lying trying to make me believe that everything is okay in our relationship and it's not. I know women always think there is something wrong, but everything is not okay. We don't pray together, we don't read the Bible together. Everything is my fault. He doesn't want to acknowledge his wrongs, there is always an excuse. He is not a good leader, almost everything is up to me.
We have been together since we were 17 and 18, he has told me he has a lust for women. He has cheated numerous times before, I think he is still cheating, whether it is emotionally or physically.
I also know my wrongs, but I just want to know the truth. I don't know how to fake a smile or suppress my emotions and the way I feel for him and just love him no matter what. I want to stand up for myself. I am tired of everything seeming likes it is my fault. Mentally that is hard for me to deal with. I can't function somedays, I cry, I think about him, what is he doing, is he lying.
I am at this point of I don't want to hear him tell me he loves me or his flattery. I don't want him touching me or be intimate with him. He probably doesn't want to hear from me either, because my attitude is not consistent. Because I always think he is up to something, being suspicious of him. When he lies or is trying to get over on me, he becomes real sweet.
How do I do this? Is the only answer prayer? What can I do to protect myself? How can I stand up for myself? Or do I have to submit to him doing all of this?
We have been talking about friendship and when I directly ask him about us being friends, he always diverts, or answer my question with a question. Anytime I ask him about the women he is talking to, I get threaten like I am going to tell someone or he makes me feel bad. I honestly don't care who he tells, he could get on the microphone at church and say something. Then I am apologizing and have anxiety about if he is going to stop showing me affection, stop showing me attention. I guess this is his way of having me, so he can continue to do what he wants. Should I just let him? What should I say to him?
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