my husband has recently found the mennonite faith (not much differnet from amish, and stricter then mordern day christianity) and the bishop there is telling my husband he needs to find out if his ex wife is still alive so that way he will know if he is living an adulterous marriage with me. we have been married for 8 years almost 9 and have 3 kids together they were married i think 3 years and no kids together when he divorced her he was a christian being taught false docterine about divorce and remarriage she was not a believer he left her in arizona with her mom and moved back to utah where i met him a few years later and we were married 7 months later. i am lost as to why he would want to contact her i mean if shes still alive what is he going to do divorce me and remarry her as she was his first wife and i am the second. if shes dead he says then hes free to remarry but wont give me a straight answer i asked him if its Gods will for you to remarry her will you remarry that crazy woman that beat the crap out of you and took your business for drugs? he said he wants to be married to me but.... and thats where i shut myself out from the whole thing im lost i dont know what to do i dont know what to ask for by posting this. we just reconcilied our marriage in may of this year