Ok, I searched online for a christian chat site because i really want Christian/Biblical advice only. I am recently married and my husband and I have a great relationship. I truly feel blessed to have him. We both have had previous relationships but are only 28 and have never been married before. we talk about everything and have a good foundation. Ok, so things would be PERFECT ( i know this doesn't exist) if we/I didn't have this one issue.
( gonna make this as short a possible) His ex of six years who he was very in love with are still friends-well they were when we met. He has a 10 year old son and the sons mother is not very involved in the child's life and the ex was there for the son a lot. Now that he and the ex are not together ( broke up about three years ago) she is still involved with the son and is the Godmother. The ex is also married now and has a 1 year old. My husband says he is no longer in love with the ex and has no feelings for her but wants to remain friends. We have had discussions about this b/c in my life experiences i don't see the point since they are no longer together. However, before we got married we both decided/compromised that he would still be in contact with her as she is an important person in my step sons life and I would not want to interfere with that. We agreed that he would only communicate with her in reference to her and my step son. This was very difficult for me at first but i felt it was fair and right to do.
Let me say this briefly. She has never been disrespectful towards me or said anything out of line. I thought we had settled everything with this issues however he tells me yesterday that she has invited us to her sons 1st bday party. I was very confused why my husband would even ask/tell me this when he knows how I feel about this. I understand the son going but theres no need for us/him to go. He became upset when I told him no I was not going and I didn't want him to go either. Later we discussed more and this morning he apologized for how he reacted and stated he just wont go to any of her events.
My issues: I do know that he loves me and I mean a lot to him. However, im torn over this issues and don't want him to later become regretful, resentful, or upset. He knows how I feel and I know how he feels just don't know how to compromise even more without me feeling like im going against my feelings/beliefs and him feeling the same. Any suggestions?
THANKS!
( gonna make this as short a possible) His ex of six years who he was very in love with are still friends-well they were when we met. He has a 10 year old son and the sons mother is not very involved in the child's life and the ex was there for the son a lot. Now that he and the ex are not together ( broke up about three years ago) she is still involved with the son and is the Godmother. The ex is also married now and has a 1 year old. My husband says he is no longer in love with the ex and has no feelings for her but wants to remain friends. We have had discussions about this b/c in my life experiences i don't see the point since they are no longer together. However, before we got married we both decided/compromised that he would still be in contact with her as she is an important person in my step sons life and I would not want to interfere with that. We agreed that he would only communicate with her in reference to her and my step son. This was very difficult for me at first but i felt it was fair and right to do.
Let me say this briefly. She has never been disrespectful towards me or said anything out of line. I thought we had settled everything with this issues however he tells me yesterday that she has invited us to her sons 1st bday party. I was very confused why my husband would even ask/tell me this when he knows how I feel about this. I understand the son going but theres no need for us/him to go. He became upset when I told him no I was not going and I didn't want him to go either. Later we discussed more and this morning he apologized for how he reacted and stated he just wont go to any of her events.
My issues: I do know that he loves me and I mean a lot to him. However, im torn over this issues and don't want him to later become regretful, resentful, or upset. He knows how I feel and I know how he feels just don't know how to compromise even more without me feeling like im going against my feelings/beliefs and him feeling the same. Any suggestions?
THANKS!