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Husband flirting with nurses

Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by caresforthebirds, Apr 26, 2015.

  1. caresforthebirds

    caresforthebirds Newbie

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    I have heard that my husband does this and now I saw it happen when he forgot I was there. Apparently he loves to flirt with and give innuendo to nurses that take care of him in the hospital. A church member was also present when this happened. The church member said he would talk to my husband, but this behavior has made me sad and angry coming from someone that claims to follow Jesus. How do I handle this topic with my husband?
     
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  2. annafullofgrace

    annafullofgrace His blood sets me free.

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    Just ask him. How is your communication?
     
  3. Autumnleaf

    Autumnleaf Legend

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    Tell him you don't like it.
     
  4. JCLover779

    JCLover779 Newbie

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    The nurses probably don't like it either. Unless is pretty benign, and more of a "being friendly" thing, which some people take as flirting.

    Is he aware he is doing it?
     
  5. Dave-W

    Dave-W Welcoming grandchild #7, Arturus Waggoner! Supporter

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    Some flirt just naturally. Perhaps he is one of those.

    You need to tell him how that affects you. You should confide in another believer who can confront him if he does not stop. (like the pastor and his wife)

    I find all forms of flirting to be obnoxious. Thankfully I do not recognize it much of the time or I would be upset a LOT.
     
  6. caresforthebirds

    caresforthebirds Newbie

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    He does it on purpose and the church member explained what it looked like was he thought he was just joking around with the nurses but it was actually inappropriate.
     
  7. Dave-W

    Dave-W Welcoming grandchild #7, Arturus Waggoner! Supporter

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    Ah. I understand. This behavior needs to be addressed (and stopped) as soon as possible. It could go very badly otherwise.
     
  8. annafullofgrace

    annafullofgrace His blood sets me free.

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    He needs to stop. He's a grown up. Bring it to his attention and tell him how it makes you feel and that it bothers you and others. Pray for your husband as well.


     
  9. JCLover779

    JCLover779 Newbie

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    Do you trust the church member's judgement and ability to talk about? If so, I would take him up on the offer for him to talk with your husband first and then see how that goes.

    It really depends on your relationship/history of interactions with your husband. If you think your husband will listen to you and see your point, then you could (and should) as well. If you think your husband is going to dismiss your views as being insecure, then let the other man do the "intervention".

    In either case, I think you should talk right away with the nurses. You can do it by yourself, or with the church member.
     
  10. JCLover779

    JCLover779 Newbie

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    It's highly possible some of his medication or his condition is affecting his judgement/thinking skills. The nurses can give you some perspective on that, as well as how bad it really is in relation to other experiences they've had. And you will be letting them know you are concerned about how it affects them.

    I think you've got lots of help options here.
     
  11. caresforthebirds

    caresforthebirds Newbie

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    He is on an awful lot of pain medicine there... but I had a kind of similar problem in the past and he didn't change until the pastor spoke with him and we are suppose to talk to the pastor in a couple of days actually.
     
  12. JCLover779

    JCLover779 Newbie

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    It would be hard and embarrassing to be in this position. I'm sorry you are dealing with it (and repeatedly). :(

    The hard part will be figuring out what he is responsible for (and needs to change) and what is beyond his control. But you do have some things you can do and people who can help you. Lean on them. His nurses will talk with the doctors if they deem it necessary, and they can definitely support you in the medical (and some emotional) realm. Your church can help you, too.
     
  13. DZoolander

    DZoolander Persnickety Member

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    lol funny you mention this - because it brought to mind something that happened yesterday that caught my interest for a moment but then brushed off.

    I've got a pretty bad ear infection right now (swimmer's ear...my daughter got me into the pool the other week and it's been festering ever since). Finally yesterday it got to be throbbing so badly I broke down and went to one of the drug-store "doc in a box" places to get it checked out.

    As the nurse was going over all of the various things she had to fill out - she was reading them sort of under her breath. One of the checkboxes apparently was...

    "Behaving appropriately...yes"

    I kinda chuckled - and felt like asking "What kind of stuff happens where you end up marking 'no'?"
     
  14. Inkachu

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    Of course it needs to stop. It's not only offensive to you as his wife, but the nurses have the right not to be subjected to overtly flirtatious or sexual comments from patients. Speak to the head nurse in charge of his case and ask that only male nurses be assigned to him from now on. And tell him straight out that it's not appropriate and it hurts your feelings!
     
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