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I've tried reminding myself that God doesn't make junk, and when I say something bad about myself, I'm criticizing His creation.
I've tried making it a policy not to say anything to myself that I couldn't comfortably say to a child.
I've tried asking myself if I would say that to a friend who made the same mistake.
I've tried asking myself if I would put up with somebody else saying that to me.
But when I make a mistake, when I don't do something perfectly the first time every time, all of that reasoning flies out the window. It's especially bad if I keep messing up, and have to try again several times. Would I say that to a friend, or a child? Of course not. Other people don't deserve it... but my brain thinks it's OK to say those things to me. Yes, even if somebody else said it to me, I'd probably just put up with it.
In my younger days, the other kids would tell me I was mentally challenged. (That's not how they worded it. I'm giving it a tactful translation.) As for the adults, if they weren't busy making negative predictions about how I was going to turn out when I grew up, they were finding fault with the things I did accomplish, and telling me how it didn't count for much in the real world.
Which brings us to today. When it takes me three tries to back into my space, even with a stupid *parking camera* in my car, I find myself automatically thinking those people were right about me. I try balancing it out by also saying something good... but that's the hardest of all, and it's only becoming more difficult to come up with something.
I've tried making it a policy not to say anything to myself that I couldn't comfortably say to a child.
I've tried asking myself if I would say that to a friend who made the same mistake.
I've tried asking myself if I would put up with somebody else saying that to me.
But when I make a mistake, when I don't do something perfectly the first time every time, all of that reasoning flies out the window. It's especially bad if I keep messing up, and have to try again several times. Would I say that to a friend, or a child? Of course not. Other people don't deserve it... but my brain thinks it's OK to say those things to me. Yes, even if somebody else said it to me, I'd probably just put up with it.
In my younger days, the other kids would tell me I was mentally challenged. (That's not how they worded it. I'm giving it a tactful translation.) As for the adults, if they weren't busy making negative predictions about how I was going to turn out when I grew up, they were finding fault with the things I did accomplish, and telling me how it didn't count for much in the real world.
Which brings us to today. When it takes me three tries to back into my space, even with a stupid *parking camera* in my car, I find myself automatically thinking those people were right about me. I try balancing it out by also saying something good... but that's the hardest of all, and it's only becoming more difficult to come up with something.