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Why when I am online and girls i know and if they are more better looking I start to feel lust when I talk with them or see them post photo. Even when I don't think sexual thoughts about them. I just get this feeling and it desturb me. It feels as If I can't even look to a more beautiful looking girl with out feeling lust for her.
 

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Turn it towards the Lord, admit it and tell Him she is beautiful. And make no moves on her ( except the one you think you might be interested in taking as your mate), just accept that she is beautifully made. I'll be 69yo in April and I still know a beautiful woman when I see one, in fact you can find beauty in all of them. The fact is we are chemically made to be attracted, you will come to know that to be a good thing rather than a curse, where you can love your neighbor and not think sex about her then you're on the right track. Be strong you're doing ok by the sounds of it.
 
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But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” Matthew 19:11-12
 
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Another thing that may help quench the lust. You see a woman, pray for her, pray that her needs in life be met, that she has a long and healthy life. Turn the lust to something good.
 
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I am looking to get married,but i find it dificult to meet a girl that truly wants relationship. I don't like girls from my country so i look from abroad,but then again I don't have right now so much money that I could go abroad. Most girls this days want guys who are very good looking and wealthy. i am 28 this summer will be 29. I am not on this pages because i really enjoy spending time there I am looking for a wife. I have many hobbies,but this sites take a lot of time. At the same time I feel so lost.as If i never know is this girl the one or not so I keep looking and looking.
 
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Turn it towards the Lord, admit it and tell Him she is beautiful. And make no moves on her ( except the one you think you might be interested in taking as your mate), just accept that she is beautifully made. I'll be 69yo in April and I still know a beautiful woman when I see one, in fact you can find beauty in all of them. The fact is we are chemically made to be attracted, you will come to know that to be a good thing rather than a curse, where you can love your neighbor and not think sex about her then you're on the right track. Be strong you're doing ok by the sounds of it.

Hi Dave. I was wondering if you could elaborate when you say "accept that she is beautifully made" and "you will come to know that to be a good thing rather than a curse".

The idea of 'platonic' love from Plato, I believe, is that it is true. Men and women may feel repressed attraction for one another. But they ignore that part of themselves and focus on having a friendship with one another that bears mutual respect and love. For the Christian, it is taken one step further in that the friendship is meant to draw one to God more than to each other.

At least that is what I understand it to mean. There are tons of women at work who are beautiful in my eyes; I sometimes fall into lust for them. I ask the Lord to forgive me and get up and try again. But it sounds like you are saying that beauty can become just a positive feature of who they are without lusting.

How?
 
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Also, I had an interesting dream last night of one of my co workers who I wish I was a close friend with, but is wrong to desire this because I am married and my wife wants me to be devoted to her (rightfully so of course).

But the dream was that this coworker female of mine was driving me and we had to go somewhere. I was happy to be able to spend time with her and talk a little, though I can't remember what I said. Suddenly, she turned to me and said my arm was bleeding and then she was helping me to fix it.

I think it's a fascinating dream; nothing sexual at all, but fascinating.
 
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Hi Dave. I was wondering if you could elaborate when you say "accept that she is beautifully made" and "you will come to know that to be a good thing rather than a curse".

The idea of 'platonic' love from Plato, I believe, is that it is true. Men and women may feel repressed attraction for one another. But they ignore that part of themselves and focus on having a friendship with one another that bears mutual respect and love. For the Christian, it is taken one step further in that the friendship is meant to draw one to God more than to each other.

At least that is what I understand it to mean. There are tons of women at work who are beautiful in my eyes; I sometimes fall into lust for them. I ask the Lord to forgive me and get up and try again. But it sounds like you are saying that beauty can become just a positive feature of who they are without lusting.

How?
For me how ? Don't violate God's space with them, they are His not mine. And they probably have a husband and family on top of that.
 
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For me how ? Don't violate God's space with them, they are His not mine. And they probably have a husband and family on top of that.

I believe there are healthy cross sex friendships; it's just that most of us guys are not worthy enough to participate in them.
 
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