Hello all, very new to this forum, so if I posted in the wrong group, please let me know.
I (26F) have recently started a relationship with a fellow Christian (27M). However, we are of different race, which my parent immediately show their disapproval for. Worse even, they were even more angry about the fact that I didn't give them the play by play of the pre-relationship (meeting, courtship, etc) and that they could not accept the fact that I enter this new relationship with no news at all. They know of this man for years, though previously introduced as a friend, so it's not an issue of being a complete stranger.
Now, months passed, and I haven't really mentioned him or our relationship to avoid tension. I let my parents ask on their own time to let them be more comfortable, and recently, they say that they try to accept it, but just still isn't comfortable or is fully accepting, on account of 1) me not telling them in the first place, 2) the racial difference (as if I can do anything about it) and 3) could not stop thinking about how the people in church, community etc will think (I do come from a very, very racist country, church included). Now, my parents told me to not be in a relationship with my boyfriend, in a sense of 'not to hold hands or show physical affection, you can spend time but only as friends who are trying to know each other better'. I am quoting this verbatim, albeit translated from my mother language.
As a parting word however, they told me and my boyfriend to keep praying until they can accept it, and then we could 'be on a proper relationship'.
I'm trying to be a better Christian, which I believe prayer is a very important tool, and the Christianity aspect of our relationship is also important. But honestly, right now, I'm just wondering if praying will do anything or if their request is even genuine. How to even tell my boyfriend of this development? Is this truly of my parents christian belief or is it simply their bigotry speaking? What am I supposed to do or say now?
Any advice at all is appreciated, thank you.
I (26F) have recently started a relationship with a fellow Christian (27M). However, we are of different race, which my parent immediately show their disapproval for. Worse even, they were even more angry about the fact that I didn't give them the play by play of the pre-relationship (meeting, courtship, etc) and that they could not accept the fact that I enter this new relationship with no news at all. They know of this man for years, though previously introduced as a friend, so it's not an issue of being a complete stranger.
Now, months passed, and I haven't really mentioned him or our relationship to avoid tension. I let my parents ask on their own time to let them be more comfortable, and recently, they say that they try to accept it, but just still isn't comfortable or is fully accepting, on account of 1) me not telling them in the first place, 2) the racial difference (as if I can do anything about it) and 3) could not stop thinking about how the people in church, community etc will think (I do come from a very, very racist country, church included). Now, my parents told me to not be in a relationship with my boyfriend, in a sense of 'not to hold hands or show physical affection, you can spend time but only as friends who are trying to know each other better'. I am quoting this verbatim, albeit translated from my mother language.
As a parting word however, they told me and my boyfriend to keep praying until they can accept it, and then we could 'be on a proper relationship'.
I'm trying to be a better Christian, which I believe prayer is a very important tool, and the Christianity aspect of our relationship is also important. But honestly, right now, I'm just wondering if praying will do anything or if their request is even genuine. How to even tell my boyfriend of this development? Is this truly of my parents christian belief or is it simply their bigotry speaking? What am I supposed to do or say now?
Any advice at all is appreciated, thank you.