I also think that your threatening physical confrontation, which can only be taken as meaning violence towards him, is wrong. You need to show love and patience to him. Your sister chose to marry him and stay with him. If you love your sister you need to consider her views. Does she consider him abusive towards her?
I have a brother in law who is in his early 30's and hes a pharmacist and he behaves like a child. He keeps calling me names like idiot and stupid and calls my sister who is his wife worse names. And treats her really bad and is just an overall miserable person. It would be easy for me to take physical action here and give him reasons to think twice before he calls one of us an idiot or stupid again but my sister would be upset if I did that. I want to resolve this in a nonphysical way. Whats the best course of action here and should I let him know things may become physical if he doesn't stop?
So if someone is calling you stupid and idiot all the time, how would you handle this specifically? Either I could ignore him which I've been doing or confront him about it. If I confront him then its just going to lead to an argument and we will just go back and forth and get no where. I've tried confronting him before and it doesn't change him. Nothing works.
Most people who a t that way usually have some demons they are dealing with! Is he the type of person you could talk to and just ask is he OK? Telling him the reasons you are asking why. I would ask him why he is talking to you the way he is! Sometimes we need to be bold! Pray for him is a good start
Part of the problem could be a difference in cultures?
I get the feeling the man is really unhappy! No excuse though!
No time like the present! Nip it in the bud, but in a loving mature way. Just a simple what's wrong, or are you OK just to see where his head isShould I just out of no where talk to him about this? Or wait till he does it again then confront him about it, which i'm sure will happen sometime today when we all go out
And he probably acts out from his insecurity, topping anyone else ( in his own mind) before they top him. So he gets all blusterous. This behavior doesn't fix itself but knowing God, having Jesus would be a beginning. He doesn't have that, his throne is occupied by self or worse, the enemy. Then add alcohol, it's a recipe for disaster.I get the feeling the man is really unhappy! No excuse though!
If its mental illness then it may be out of your hands! Is there anyone he listens to/respects?No time like the present! Nip it in the bud, but in a loving mature way. Just a simple what's wrong, or are you OK just to see where his head is
Desperate times call for desperate measures.... next time he calls you a name do this....
Say. "I know you are but what am I?"
Maybe he needs a friend
I have a brother in law who is in his early 30's and hes a pharmacist and he behaves like a child. He keeps calling me names like idiot and stupid and calls my sister who is his wife worse names. And treats her really bad and is just an overall miserable person. It would be easy for me to take physical action here and give him reasons to think twice before he calls one of us an idiot or stupid again but my sister would be upset if I did that. I want to resolve this in a nonphysical way. Whats the best course of action here and should I let him know things may become physical if he doesn't stop?
He has an overall poor attitude towards everyone and everything. It's not just us, but I'm tired of hearing the things he says to my sister and to me as well. They do live a state away and are just visiting for thanksgiving so I don't have to see him very often. So I could easily just let this go as I have since they met 9 years ago but I feel like I need to do something. My sister won't leave this guy even if I did do something which is the problem.
There was one physical incident that he did to my sister in front of my mom, but my sister says nothing has happened since and this was 3.5 years ago.