Procrastinator? Hmmm, I'll have to answer this tomorrow...
Seriously, the title of this thread describes me and my wife. Funny, though, the nagging seems to make my procrastination worse. Stupid and stubborn on my part, yes.
The thing that finally made a difference is that she made me understand how my procrastinating made her
feel. See, most guys know the wife loves them if they do the wifely, umm, things when we ask, or if the wife says, "I love you" or gives us kisses, etc. Wives, on the other hand, see acts of service as acts of love. For instance, I work out of a home office. I eat breakfast and lunch in my very own kitchen and see no problem at all with throwing the dirty dishes in the sink and doing them with dinner dishes. My wife, however, has a big problem with that. She comes home to a spotless house with a few dishes in the sink. She sees a dirty house. This causes her stress as she comes home to her refuge from the world. She's a neat nick and the first thing she sees is a "mess". Big deal, right? To her it is. Men see dirty dishes and think, "I'll do them later." women see dirty dishes and think, "My husband doesn't love me enough to take two minutes out of his day to take care of those dishes so that I can come home to a clean house." Crazy, huh? Not crazy, just different. The thing is, I had no idea
why this thing that was little to me was so big to my wife. Until she told me. Have I changed over night? Not hardly. However, more often than not, I do realize the importance of those "little things' and I take two minutes to get it done.
So, ladies, educate your husbands. You will tell your friends the smallest thought or detail, yet you expect us to be mind readers. Heck, we barely know what we're thinking most of the time, let alone what someone else is thinking. Tell them, in a nice way, how the procrastinating makes you
feel. Let them in on the signal it sends to you. And if they don't respond appropriately, bribe them. If that doesn't work, they deserve to be nagged.