How long to wait after divorce

[Kenyanmom]

Bluedart,
Thank you and happy blessed New year. I have read the scriptures you quoted and I agree with you. Mathew 19:9 is the exception. Despite all the 6 years of cheating, physical abuse and mental abuse I have for the 6 months since I rededicated my life back to Christ been praying for reconciliation knowing that it is possible with His help. However my ex after 3 years of separation finally came clean and informed me he has a 9month old child and isn't interested in us. Corinthians 7:15 says to let go which I have and I am happier having done that. I have over the 3 year period managed to forgive and heal. What I'm pleased about is that I no longer have to be confused wondering what God has to say about my situation. It is now clear thanks to scripture that moving on and remarriage is ok. Jesus came that we may live life in abudance. I believe this is the beginning of a new exciting life in Christ and that He wants the best for me. Im praying that by this year I will with Gods help find myself legally freed from that bond too. Thank you so much for taking your time to respond.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I think it's just like grieving the loss of a loved one. Everyone grieves differently and that is OK. Divorce is a death of your marriage, so there would be a grieving period to go thru, but how long, no one can say but the people involved.
My husband passed away almost 9 years ago. We met and married within 8 months. I don't think he was even sure he was divorced yet. Turned out that his wife, who was married when they got together, was not divorced from her husband at the time, when my husband and her got married, so their marriage was null and void. I found this out, when she tried to get a divorce from my husband and after a very long time period, she got a letter from her lawyer stating they were never legally married. And if they had been, we would have just gotten re-married after the divorce was final.

Another funny thing is that my previous boyfriend and I, when we broke up, he got married 8 months later and I was furious (and hurt) because I said "how could he love her in only 8 months?" and then the exact same time frame happened to me LOL. We were married almost 25 years so....