I'm 32 and I've never been in an "official" relationship. I've been interested in quite a few girls at my church and Christian co-workers, but each one was either already seeing someone or weren't interested for some reason. It doesn't help matters that I'm pretty shy before I get to know someone.
So I decided to try a few dating sites and met a great Christian girl. We saw Star Wars on the 22nd and talked for a while after. We went to a Christmas Eve party, met for lunch on the 26th and talked/texted the rest of the week. She grew up in a hyper-conservative denomination that forbid most contact with the opposite sex. She got married young without dating and her husband ended up abusing her and then divorcing her. She had a few relationships since then, but they weren't healthy either. We agreed on striving for a Godly relationship and dating for marriage, not just for fun, but neither one of us have any experience with what that looks like or how fast it progresses. We talked a lot that first week about personal and serious relationship questions, but agreed on staying "friends" until we were ready for a relationship. We didn't want to rush into a relationship when we had only known each other a few days, even though we were talking and acting a lot like a couple.
How long should two people wait after they meet before they commit to a relationship?
So I decided to try a few dating sites and met a great Christian girl. We saw Star Wars on the 22nd and talked for a while after. We went to a Christmas Eve party, met for lunch on the 26th and talked/texted the rest of the week. She grew up in a hyper-conservative denomination that forbid most contact with the opposite sex. She got married young without dating and her husband ended up abusing her and then divorcing her. She had a few relationships since then, but they weren't healthy either. We agreed on striving for a Godly relationship and dating for marriage, not just for fun, but neither one of us have any experience with what that looks like or how fast it progresses. We talked a lot that first week about personal and serious relationship questions, but agreed on staying "friends" until we were ready for a relationship. We didn't want to rush into a relationship when we had only known each other a few days, even though we were talking and acting a lot like a couple.
How long should two people wait after they meet before they commit to a relationship?
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