How long have you been trying?

[gracefaith]

How long have you been TTC?

Month number one for us.

Feel free to update over time (though here's to hoping that none of us have to update soon.)

 

[Jocristian]

Since we have been married... so a little over a year and a half. Starting to get a bit frustrating seeing unwed mothers and friends who are pregnant by "surprise", but I suppose it's all in His timing.

 

[AJoyfulNoise]

This is our seventh month - only one week left to this cycle. I'm not feeling overly optimistic.

It took nine months for us to conceive our daughter.

 

[Beth1231]

Gracefaith, it's month number one for us too Let's hope the last month for both of us....

 

[ulais0205]

Gracefaith, it's month number one for us too Let's hope the last month for both of us....

we've been trying 3 and a half years... no success.

it hurts.

my friend told me this week she was pregnant - I am excited for her, but it hurts like hell for us. especially since we were trying long before she decided she wanted children.

 

[Beth1231]

*HUUUGGG* I'm so sorry, ulais. Please forgive my rather glib, naieve comments. I hope you're next dear sis.

 

[The Story Teller]

God Bless and good luck to everyone..

 

[Beth1231]

story teller, I'm trying to figure out what prompted you to put that silly joke here? *confused* Maybe you could edit if and replace it with something um..relevant?

Like for instance, are you and your wife trying or something?

 

[ulais0205]

*HUUUGGG* I'm so sorry, ulais. Please forgive my rather glib, naieve comments. I hope you're next dear sis.

thanks for the hug! I don't remember you making any such comments, but if you did, I forgive you!

 

[ulais0205]

just read through the thread again and realised I had quoted you beth, I hadn't meant to - still learning!!!

I hope you get the desired result soon too!

 

[Beth1231]

just read through the thread again and realised I had quoted you beth, I hadn't meant to - still learning!!!

I hope you get the desired result soon too!

Hi again....I'm not sure how much you know about forums (I couldn't figure out your comment about quoting me) but I figured I would reassure you that that's what people usually do in CF...we quote someone and reply to it. Or sometimes we just reply Are you new to CF or am I totally misinterpreting what you said, lol

 

[gracefaith]

we've been trying 3 and a half years... no success.

it hurts.

my friend told me this week she was pregnant - I am excited for her, but it hurts like hell for us. especially since we were trying long before she decided she wanted children.

Awww...I'm sorry you're feeling so badly.

If it's any consolation, my best friend has been trying for a year without success and I worry she'll be really upset if I get pregnant before she does.

 

[Beth1231]

gracefaith, I know what you mean. On my side, it's a dear friend who miscarried at ten weeks and I don't want to get pg before her. She's 41, so I have more time!

 

[Linnis]

My friend Cindy tried for 2 years and then went to fertility treatments. I was 7 months pregnant when I learned she had been TTC with 8 months of treatments with no pregnancy. I felt bad for getting pregnant before her, even if it took me 11 months of TTC to get pregnant.

 

[ulais0205]

it's so tricky isn't it? I know people who have been trying longer than we have, and although I desperately want a child, I'm also conscious of the hurt and pain it would cause them if we got pg first.

My friend told me last week she was pg. It hurt, but I went away, had a good cry and then got myself together and can now celebrate with her.

None of us who are experiencing infertility want others to experience it, but perhaps if you can exercise caution when talking about it. For example, I have a friend who knows of our problems conceiving but made a point of telling me how excited she was about the impending birth of her third granddaughter. (she emphasised the 'third').

My friend who told me the other week about her becoming pg did so sensitively. She told me by email, so as to give me space to come to terms with it before hanging out the balloons. Therefore I could go and cry and deal with my own pain so that I could go back to her and say congratulations and really mean it. Also, in telling me her news, she acknowledged it would be hard for me to hear. She was the first person to do that, and it made the difference just to know that she acknowledged my pain.

We don't not want you to get pg!!!! Just be sensitive to those around you!!!

 

[Saint_Rita]

We are in the two week wait of cycle #16.

 

[AngeliaTurner]

Hi all. My husband and I have been trying for 2 years now. I know what you all are talking about. Everytime someone tells me they are pg, it rips my heart out. I have a niece that is 5 years younger than me and she told me just recently that she is pg. It hurt me bad because she didn't even want a baby anytime soon. She has 2 little boys (one 3 and the other 1). I feel like it is so unfair for those of us who have been trying and had no success thus far. I have a hard time understanding why people that are not trying or not even wanting to get pg anytime soon are the ones who are blessed with the greatest gift ever.

I will keep you all in my prayers. Please do the same for me. God Bless!

 

[SweetBella]

since may 2005.

 

[Redstiletto]

I am going on my 3rd month.

You know, before I got married, and me and DH were talking about getting pregnant, I thought it was going to be real easy.

Stick it in at the right time of the month, and wam... baby news two weeks later.

But no. This is so frustrating and nerve raking.

I just want it to be easy!

 

[Beth1231]

Redstiletto, I know what you mean. This is our first month of actively trying (I'm in the TWW) and in the last few weeks it has started to hit home that this TTC business is not as easy as I thought. Another month of sex every other day makes me tired just thinking about it. Sorry for the TMI, but we know sex makes babies