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Featured How do you stay pure?

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by VMaeLove, Aug 19, 2019.

  1. VMaeLove

    VMaeLove Selbst ist die Frau

    Hey! I am looking for insite on my situation. I find it very hard to stay strong in christian thinking in my normal life because I feel surrounded by sin. At work and at home with tv and internet and in public like shopping it is ads and people talking. and the news talks about depressing things always. Some of my friends expect me to follow them doing drugs and sex and I do not want to do those things anymore but I also do not want to lose friendships. but they are disapointed when I do not. The temptations make me too tired to go out and having fun any more.
    Even if I end all of my relationships I would still be surrounded by temptation at all times. I am wondering if there is bible verses you recommend or prayers I can say or some way to help keep my mind pure? I am thinking out loud only and hoping someone has dealt with this.:confused:
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  2. JohnAshton

    JohnAshton Well-Known Member

    United States
    I have found in my own life that to maintain your beliefs is probably more easily than your actions,

    The Franklin Covenant is the best way to remain sexually pure.

    Never be alone with someone not your spouse or your female/male family friends.

    Keep the door ajar when networking and counseling and advising.

    If any accuse you of hindering anyone's professional career by doing the above, limit your activity to that person in group activities.
  3. Stranger36147

    Stranger36147 Active Member

    Other Religion
    No one is truly pure....except for Jesus.
  4. dzheremi

    dzheremi Coptic Orthodox non-Egyptian

    Oriental Orthodox
    The Psalms work wonders for this. We aim to pray them frequently, and meditate on them day and night.

    Since you sound very 'surrounded', maybe Psalm 57 (56)? This one:

    May God give you strength and protection from every bad thing.
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  5. LaBèlla

    LaBèlla ⭐️ Supporter

    United States
    I use several strategies to strengthen my mindset and spirit. But there’s always room for improvement!

    This is my touchstone:

    Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

    I’ve undertaken a continual pruning process and removed influences which don’t support the Lord’s perspective. This specifically refers to the things I read, view and listen to. Avoiding content that reinforces fear, negativity, or unwholesome behavior makes a marked difference in your joy and peace of mind.

    I work from home and don’t have workplace challenges. But I collaborate with fellow entrepreneurs and consider their character before forging alliances.

    The same is true for friendships. I look for mutually beneficial connections. While everyone hasn’t come to faith, we share similar values and life experiences. I focus on intentional relationships where support and encouragement are the norm.

    Finally, make prayer your anchor and ask for the things you lack. I made a list of my wants and needs and pray them continually. God has provided most of them thus far. Keep knocking until He does the same for you.
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  6. Willing-heart

    Willing-heart In Christ Alone. Supporter

    United Kingdom
    I've taken a few snapshots from my blog posts that I think is helpful: www.femiroyalblog.com

    The more you love Jesus, the more you will become conscious of sin, temptation, and Satan’s attack; and the more you become more conscious of the spiritual conflicts, the more you will treasure and appreciate the amazing love Jesus has for you by nailing all your sins to His cross and giving you victory to overcome. Loving Jesus begins with being dissatisfied with your current level of loving Jesus.

    To claim the victory and take the authority of Jesus, you and I must stand firm on every promise of God given to us in the scripture. For it written:

    “No weapon formed against you will prevail” – Isaiah 54:7
    “The One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” – 1 John 4:4
    “Thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through the Lord Jesus Christ” – 1 Corinthians 15:57
    “But thanks be to God who always leads us in a triumphant procession in Christ Jesus” – 2 Corinthians 2:14
    “No temptation has ceased you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will provide a way out so that you can endure it” – 1 Corinthians 10:13

    Surrender to the control of the Holy Spirit gives us freedom from the control of sin. Surrender to the power of the Holy Spirit will keep us from the pitfalls of the old nature. Surrendering of our will to the Spirit of the Living God will help us over the enemies trap every time.

    When the bible talks about self-control – the fruit of the Spirit (revealed in Galatians 5:22-23), it does not mean self-mastery, nor self-improvement, the Bible is talking about self-surrender to the Holy Spirit. Self-control is being empowered by the Holy Spirit of God, but self-mastery is dependent entirely on one’s power and will. Self-control is what takes place in a person’s life out of the abundance that springs out of that person’s love for Jesus, but self-mastery is designed to make to make a person take control of their own destiny. Even at its best, anyone practising self-mastery if they are honest will admit that things are truly out of control when their soul is completely naked before God.

    We must be ruthless in moral self-deny. Job said (in Job 31:1), “I made a covenant with my eyes that I would not gaze at a woman. “According to Proverb 27:20 & Ecclesiastes 1:8, “The eyes of men are never satisfied; the eye is never satisfied with seeing.” “Be careful, then, what you allow your eyes to see and your heart to desire. For nothing the Enemy offers can match what you have already been promised in Christ” – Dr. Michael Youssef.

    "Be strong in the Lord and His mighty power" – Ephesians 6:10
  7. A. Sinner

    A. Sinner New Member

    How to be pure:

    STEP ONE: Be Jesus, Son of God.
    STEP TWO: good luck with that!

    JIMINZ Well-Known Member

    United States


    Gal. 2:20
    I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
  9. Paidiske

    Paidiske Clara bonam audax Supporter

    I'd suggest finding something to volunteer in, in your spare time. Keep your mind and your hands busy with doing good, alongside others intent on doing good, and there's less space for what is destructive.
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  10. FutureAndAHope

    FutureAndAHope Just me Supporter

    The bible says that there is a middle road, and that when we fear God he will help us find it.

    Ecc 7:16-18 Be not overly righteous, and do not make yourself too wise. Why should you destroy yourself? Be not overly wicked, neither be a fool. Why should you die before your time? It is good that you should take hold of this, and from that withhold not your hand, for the one who fears God shall come out from both of them.

    But as a general exhortation, I would say if you wish to avoid sin, spend more time in prayer. Jesus said "pray that you enter not into temptation, for the spirit is willing and the flesh weak". God's Holy Spirit strengthens us as we pray, giving strength for each day.
  11. VMaeLove

    VMaeLove Selbst ist die Frau

    I have to not make excuses and set my fear of change away and trust God. I guess I find that difficult mostly, is changing so drastic what I thought I need.
    I did not know how to pray or what to say. But all of you have given me very much to think and read and learn from. Thanks so very much :D

    And I did not mean being perfect like Jesus but I mean being better like he wants us to be.
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  12. JohnAshton

    JohnAshton Well-Known Member

    United States
    May the Holy Spirit guide you.
  13. crossnote

    crossnote Berean Supporter

    United States
    James 4:7-10 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
  14. 98cwitr

    98cwitr Lord forgive me Staff Member Red Team - Moderator Supporter

    United States
    This is the only way
  15. pink318

    pink318 New Member

    United States
    Hello- These are the Bible verses you can meditate on.

    “How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word.” (Psalm 119:9)
    “I will set no vile thing before my eyes. I hate the deeds of faithless men. They will not cling to me.” (Psalm 101:3)
    “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night.” (Psalm 1:1-2)
    “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” (Matthew 6:13)
    “For he will order his angels to protect you wherever you go.” (Psalms 91:11)

    I pray that the Lord will bless and protect you. Take care and keep us posted. God bless.
  16. JLB777

    JLB777 Newbie Supporter


    “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.
    “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:13-16

    You are called to be salt and light to your “friends”.

    Salt preserves from corruption and like exposes darkness.

    You might as well get it straight now, and work out these issues because your “friends” that are not saved will entice you back into the pollutions of the world, and ultimately you will become lost.

    If you love your friends then you may need to separate yourself from them and find some godly friends that will encourage you in the faith.

    The day will come when they are wanting to turn to Christ themselves and you can be there for them.

    Now you must spend time praying for them.

    For if, after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and overcome, the latter end is worse for them than the beginning. For it would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered to them. But it has happened to them according to the true proverb: “A dog returns to his own vomit,” and, “a sow, having washed, to her wallowing in the mire.”
    2 Peter 2:20-22

  17. VMaeLove

    VMaeLove Selbst ist die Frau

    Are you saying if I cannot be a light for my friends I should not be with them?
  18. JLB777

    JLB777 Newbie Supporter


    At this stage of your Christian life, you should not associate with sinners.

    This is one of many warning scriptures (911) in the New Testament.

    I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person. 1 Corinthians 5:9-11

    If we are not to keep company with Christians who are immoral, then how much more the people of the world?

  19. sea5763

    sea5763 Well-Known Member

    United States
    If they are such shallow friends that they won't stay your friend unless you take drugs, then they definitely won't be there to pick up the pieces if you become a drug addict. If you become an addict, then you'll probably lose most of your friends anyways, along with your ability to hold down a job or normal life in the future. the only time I've drunken alcohol is because my mom told me to take a couple of sips when I was around 8 years old. The only time I drink wine is if at communion there is no grape juice. I don't do drugs.

    If they stop seeing you because you don't want to do sex and drugs then find a church to go to. that's what churches are for, for believers to spend time with each other and worship God. There might not be as many people your age there, but you could try talking to the grandparents and such for fellowship.

    As for sex before marriage, most men prefer virgins in most cultures and most times around the world. So if you want to get married you should consider not having premarital sex. Also, people that stay virgins until marriage I hear have lower divorce rates. I'm 29 and am still a virgin.

    When I was growing up, I stayed a virgin because I wanted to get married to mr perfect someday. When I turned around 27, I was tempted to give it up to have a boyfriend because I had given up on ever finding someone that would want to marry me. I thought I was too old to find a husband. I talked about it on here actually.

    I had to cut ties to the guy that was tempting me even though he was a Christian, because I was too weak at that point to resist temptation. At this point, I've come to terms that I might never marry or have sex, because I believe that God is real, and that God is more important to me than screwing around outside of marriage. When I think about it, I think about all the Christian martyrs out there who sacrifice everything and suffer torture for Christ, as well as thinking about how Christ suffered and died for me, and how I owe it to Him to make an effort to live the way He would want me to.

    I suggest you read the book of Psalms and Proverbs, especially Proverbs. They are filled with wisdom about people and circumstances such as your own. Proverbs really isn't that long either.

    In my opinion, if you are friends with non Christians or people tempting you to sin, you should consider whether you staying friends with them will bring them to Christ or whether they are bringing you into sin. I personally think that if they are turning you away from God more than you are turning them towards Christ, you should probably cut the connection, at least until you are strong enough to be a positive influence on them. In some cases, like temptation for sexual immorality, you should just flee from it like Joseph did from the wife of his boss. If there is some guy tempting you to sexual sin, you should flee from him. You're sticking around will only probably lead to sin.

    1 Corinthians 15:29-34
    29Otherwise, what do people mean by being baptized on behalf of the dead? If the dead are not raised at all, why are people baptized on their behalf? 30Why are we in danger every hour? 31I protest, brothers, by my pride in you, which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die every day! 32What do I gain if, humanly speaking, I fought with beasts at Ephesus? If the dead are not raised, “Let us eat and drink, for tomorrow we die.” 33Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”d 34Wake up from your drunken stupor, as is right, and do not go on sinning. For some have no knowledge of God. I say this to your shame.

    1 Corinthians 6:15-20
    15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! 16Or do you not know that he who is joinedd to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” 17But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. 18Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sine a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 19Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,20for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

    Proverbs 5
    Warning Against Adultery

    1My son, be attentive to my wisdom;
    incline your ear to my understanding,
    2that you may keep discretion,
    and your lips may guard knowledge.
    3For the lips of a forbiddena woman drip honey,
    and her speechb is smoother than oil,
    4but in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
    sharp as a two-edged sword.
    5Her feet go down to death;
    her steps follow the path toc Sheol;
    6she does not ponder the path of life;
    her ways wander, and she does not know it.

    7And now, O sons, listen to me,
    and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
    8Keep your way far from her,
    and do not go near the door of her house,
    9lest you give your honor to others
    and your years to the merciless,
    10lest strangers take their fill of your strength,
    and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
    11and at the end of your life you groan,
    when your flesh and body are consumed,
    12and you say, “How I hated discipline,
    and my heart despised reproof!
    13I did not listen to the voice of my teachers
    or incline my ear to my instructors.
    14I am at the brink of utter ruin
    in the assembled congregation.”

    15Drink water from your own cistern,
    flowing water from your own well.
    16Should your springs be scattered abroad,
    streams of water in the streets?
    17Let them be for yourself alone,
    and not for strangers with you.
    18Let your fountain be blessed,
    and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
    19a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
    be intoxicatedd always in her love.
    20Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman
    and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?e
    21For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the LORD,
    and he pondersf all his paths.
    22The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him,
    and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
    23He dies for lack of discipline,
    and because of his great folly he is led astray.
  20. VMaeLove

    VMaeLove Selbst ist die Frau

    My friends are not shallow. Our friendship would not end because I do not want to do these things. But I think it is difficult to spend time with them because I am not interested in party scenes.
    One friend is interested in going to church with me. He was raised christian. But it is a hard situation.
    My other friends are ok with my change in beliefs but they do not agree. We do talk about it some times.
    I am sad to see us fall apart though. I do not see them a lot and when I do they think they have to act different which makes me feel bad when I know I should not. Or there are other people around who do not care and that is when I am tempted to do these things. I usually do leave or never go any way. I want to be stronger to be able to just say no every time but some times I think it is not so bad but I know that is a wrong way to think.
    Thank you for the bible passages I will read more of it.