In marriage, I did like touching my husband and his language of love was definitely touch...we held hands a lot, watching tv, in the car, at events, etc...we slept with at least our feet touching and often much more, we kissed hello and good-bye throughout the day....
Outside of marriage, I am not a big touch person. I have to remember to hug my kids...but they both come find a hug before I go to work each night. I do enjoy sitting close to them on the couch watching tv. Other than that, I don't don't touch other people. I have a few friends who initiate hugs and I never turn them down, but I never initiate them. I do hold hands with my patients when I talk to them or do a painful procedure. I believe that my touch provides comfort and increases a connection with my patients and we have deeper conversations over their conditions and care.
My primary "happy" touch now come from the cat or the dog.
I would love to have a "significant" other again to have intimate touch ... but that is a different need...that is a need for intimacy, not touch. A stranger or casual acquaintance could never meet this need. This is a need for connection.
How do other singles meet their need for touch? And does this meet your need for touch?
Outside of marriage, I am not a big touch person. I have to remember to hug my kids...but they both come find a hug before I go to work each night. I do enjoy sitting close to them on the couch watching tv. Other than that, I don't don't touch other people. I have a few friends who initiate hugs and I never turn them down, but I never initiate them. I do hold hands with my patients when I talk to them or do a painful procedure. I believe that my touch provides comfort and increases a connection with my patients and we have deeper conversations over their conditions and care.
My primary "happy" touch now come from the cat or the dog.
I would love to have a "significant" other again to have intimate touch ... but that is a different need...that is a need for intimacy, not touch. A stranger or casual acquaintance could never meet this need. This is a need for connection.
How do other singles meet their need for touch? And does this meet your need for touch?