I'll occasionally watch the stupid boring fictional movies or sitcoms that she seems to think are entertaining or funny, often without falling asleep.
I buy her stuff that I think she'll like, but probably not often enough.
I take her on dates at least twice a week, we do something special with just the two of us, no kids, no talk of work or bills or whatever. Good wine, people watching, good food, etc. She is the most important person in my life and there would be no excuse for me to treat her as anything less than that. Our time together is important, it isn't something that should get penciled in when time perits, but rather it is what everything else gets penciled in arround.
I listen to her long, drawn out boring stories
about her day, her family, her friends, he coworkers, etc. I don't subject her to the same.
I get up at night with the kids and tend to their needs and rock them back to sleep. I see to it that she gets more sleep than I do.
I keep myself in shape for her, and keep clean and neat. I will not allow myself to gain weight or lose muscle tone. If only my hairline would quit receding
I seek to maintain my body so as to be attractive to her physically and increase my chances of being healthy for her and our children for as many years as possible.
I make her things - the sleigh bed she wanted since she was a child, all of our living room furniture, etc.
I don't open doors for her, or take her coat or order food for her. She sees those actions as silly antiquated gestures. Instead I make sure that I am always there to promptly take care of any unpleasant tasks that come up arround the house. Plumbing, electrical, roofing, car repairs, heating/AC etc. For her and our children I strive to be a master at nearly every trade, so that we never have to hire an outsider to do work for us - I don't expect that anyone would have a higher regard for the living conditions of my wife and children than I do, so I strive to know it all and do it all. She appreciates that.
I trust her to do whatever she wants whenever she wants. I encourage her to go out and have a few drinks with her friends now and then. She does not need my permision to do anything.
We go to alot of concerts, and I see to it that she's shielded by me when the elboys start flying. She likes to be in the middle of things but likes to feel like someone is watching out for her and protecting her too.
In return she lets me waste money on my hobbies that she has no interest in-drums, guitars, antique vehicles, antique guns, boats, fishing trips etc without complaint. I try to make sure that my hobbies brings in more money than they cost. She never complains when I take time to do my thing and respects my need to be alone and concentrate on my projects or my reading. she waits on me hand and foot when I'm sick and whiney and never reminds me that she's way tougher than I am. She's fine with me going out at night when she goes to bed early and never worries about where I am or who I'm with. We don't always understand what makes eachother tick or why we like the things we do, but we have learned to appreciate eachother for the unique people that we are. We push eachother and we make eachother better. I am not a great husband but she seems to think I am. It works for us.