- Mar 11, 2016
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I've always said I didn't want kids and I feel that way for multiple reasons. For one, health issues like cancer run on my dads side and mental illness like schizophrenia runs on my moms side and I my Self have anxiety...
And I always said , I don't ever want a miniature version of me to have to go through that...its hellish.
Plus, this world isn't as good as id like it to be, I'm not strong enough to handle something happening to my child...I'm just not...
And I also think, I want my child to be better than me in everyway, I want them to feel good about themselves, not be weighed down by anxiety, have a full life...but it may not be possible if they share my genes..
Then there's physical deformities and ailments...
Some may think this is a cynical way of thinking.,,but I feel its considering the whole spectrum of what having a child may entail. You don't know if they'll come out healthy or not, you don't know if they'll be mentally well or not..
But I think these two are the biggest issue for me, one...raising them to be a productive member of society...I'm 25 and am barely doing that myself...so I couldn't imagine showing someone else..someone smaller the way... And secondly, postpartum... I already have anxiety and depression.,,I've always felt that in an alternate universe ..if I were to get pregnant...it would mak3 me go down the rabbit hole by making my symptoms worse,,,
That does it for me the most..
But yeah....I feel like I'm the only one that considers these things...
Not saying its wrong to have kids but most people think its all sunshine and joy sparkles,.,.and its not...at least not all the time.
I still believe Children are a gift from God though....
So what made you take that leap of faith if you have kids or are going to have kids..
And I always said , I don't ever want a miniature version of me to have to go through that...its hellish.
Plus, this world isn't as good as id like it to be, I'm not strong enough to handle something happening to my child...I'm just not...
And I also think, I want my child to be better than me in everyway, I want them to feel good about themselves, not be weighed down by anxiety, have a full life...but it may not be possible if they share my genes..
Then there's physical deformities and ailments...
Some may think this is a cynical way of thinking.,,but I feel its considering the whole spectrum of what having a child may entail. You don't know if they'll come out healthy or not, you don't know if they'll be mentally well or not..
But I think these two are the biggest issue for me, one...raising them to be a productive member of society...I'm 25 and am barely doing that myself...so I couldn't imagine showing someone else..someone smaller the way... And secondly, postpartum... I already have anxiety and depression.,,I've always felt that in an alternate universe ..if I were to get pregnant...it would mak3 me go down the rabbit hole by making my symptoms worse,,,
That does it for me the most..
But yeah....I feel like I'm the only one that considers these things...
Not saying its wrong to have kids but most people think its all sunshine and joy sparkles,.,.and its not...at least not all the time.
I still believe Children are a gift from God though....
So what made you take that leap of faith if you have kids or are going to have kids..