How do I know if this is idolatry vs this is just me realizing liking someone?

[NASA321]

There's this girl in my church that I'm crazy about. She's like everything that I like. Funny, goofy, gorgeous, loves God, kind, and compassionate. She's what I think about a lot of the times. I just haven't asked her on a date yet because she isn't ready to date. Is it idolatry for me to think about her so much?

 

[Saucy]

That's normal when you like someone.

 

[Saint Beloved]

I've no authority, brother, but I think thinking slips into idolatry when it's all consuming your daily life and prayer life is effected by the obseesion of the object of desire instead of for seeking and spending time with God.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Give her your number when you next see her.

Seriously, just do it.

 

[Grandpa2390]

Give her your number when you next see her.

Seriously, just do it.

Unless the reason she isn't ready to date is because she is still a minor...

 

[Reformed2]

It could be. Do you think about her more than you think about Jesus? If so don't be to hard on yourself, but yest that would be idolatry, and it is much more common than many realize. Focus on Jesus, and never put anyone person on too much of a pedestal.

Matthew 6:33
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you".

 

[Applekrate]

What you are writing about is called L-O-V-E. some call it infatuation. It is something we all go through. I have been there countless times and probably will be again. am sure most others here have as well. It is a good but, kind of helpless feeling depending on how she reacts to you.
It is a time to be cautious, esp for young people with less life experiences. You will find yourself doing things you would not normally do. Some of those things may be quite stupid. In extreme cases, they can be things that will haunt you the rest of your life.
Be wise, pray about it a lot. Do not do anything without prayer first. It may end up working out and be perfect but, the odds are not with you.
There is nothing wrong with friending her and treating her very well but, do not overdue it. Be mindful of how she reacts to you. Many guys do not. She will give clues, if not outright words, as to how she reacts/recieves you. If things go well and you remain interested, things may develop down the road. If things do not work out, you will feel hurt but, it is an experience that we all go through. I wish you the best.

 

[ReesePiece23]

It could be. Do you think about her more than you think about Jesus? If so don't be to hard on yourself, but yest that would be idolatry, and it is much more common than many realize. Focus on Jesus, and never put anyone person on too much of a pedestal.

Matthew 6:33
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you".

Can't say that I disagree.

1. Jesus
2. The bigger picture
3. Yourself.

Any of those distracted? If yes, then you have a problem.

The again, my mind is quite machine like and methodical. I lack (or possibly deny) emotion.

So I myself might have a problem lol.

 

[Reformed2]

I know that others have opined and told the OP that this is love and normal etc but there is a possibility of idolatry. People with attachment issues are very vulnerable to idolozing the opposite sex/ romantic interests.

The fact that the OP mentioned it is indicative that it could be going on. I lovingly suggest researching attachment styles. I myself had an attachment issue before I totally gave myself to Jesus. ☺

 

[dayhiker]

Sounds like its what God designed hormones to do to me. Nothing at all to do with idolatry.
Might have to find a way to let her go as she isn't interested in you for what ever reason.