My daughter just separated from her husband because of his emotional and verbal abuse. They have had problems in the past, but sought christian counseling. It looked like they were going to make it. Eight months without any bad problems. Then about three months ago, he started slowly being irritable, then it escalated to a horrible verbal and emotional abuse situation. She had to leave because she knew it would escalate to another physical abuse situation. I am questioning where God is. We have found out details of the abuse and my husband and I are brokenhearted. How could this man be so cruel. I have read that so many abusers were abused themselves. But then again, not everyone responds that way. How could someone be that cruel. And he is supposed to be a christian. It doesn't make any sense. Where is the church in all this. Verbal and emotional abuse is rampant. Why don't we hear more about it. Why don't they talk about it in pre-marital counseling. I don't even feel the christian counselor handled their situation properly because she didn't get to the root causes of my son-in-laws anger. How can we best help my daughter deal with this. Should we be hearing all the details of the abuse......the incidents keep playing over and over in my mind......and now I am starting to blame my husband and I. We used to argue some. Not in an abusive way. But alot of anger. I am just so brokenhearted. But my daughter has been thru so much. How does she begin to heal?