I'm a member of a Facebook anxiety group for Christians, and I have developed "feelings" of infatuation for one of the other members. I don't know why I think I have feelings for him. You can't really know a person based off how they portray themselves online--I understand that. That is why I am asking for advice. I'm embarrassed enough by the fact LOL.
When I first became a member I didn't really interact with him much, but I always thought he was interesting. He seemed really nice and commented on some of my posts occasionally but I never really replied to any of them because I kind of knew I would get "feelings" for him so I tried to avoid that. He seemed really sweet and sensitive, and that is something I look for in guys or just friends in general. Well he updated his profile pic recently and I was like "wow" and before I knew it he became all I wanted to think about. It was really sad. My interest grew tenfold.
I started reading the posts he made to the group in the past and I fell into infatuation. Judging from the things he posts and how he writes his life experiences, he has a lot of qualities that I have only dreamed of in a guy. He likes some of the things I do and seems to really love Jesus. He also struggles with OCD like I do. He cares a lot for the other members of the group and is always compassionate in his replies. I'm a highly imaginative person and before I knew it, my feelings ran off with me. I really, REALLY want to get to know this guy, but I know that is near impossible. There is no way to really know a person when it's not in real life. It's like having a crush on a celebrity or a rock star--it's not real life. I'm just sad because...well, I'm scared I will never come across a guy like this one. He's really different, and I like that.
He doesn't live in USA so I hardly have any chance of ever getting to meet this guy. That is what makes me feel weird about it. I think I should unadd him from my friends list and leave that group, or at least leave until I get my head back on earth. I'm feeling a little ashamed and disappointed in myself in that I am developing interest for someone online. How pathetic is that?
What drives my struggle with this is, I think deep down I am lonely. I'm scared time is running out and before I know it all the good guys will be taken. I'm 24 years old and almost every girl I knew from childhood is already married or is going to be. Especially Christian guys..they go as fast as they come. When I turn 30 it will be too late; they will all be taken.
I have cried a few times about it, thinking about my own mental health issues and how it wouldn't really be a good idea to get involved with someone. I would just drag them down.
So, how can I let this guy go? Or the idea of him? I'm hurting inside thinking someday this guy is going to find someone to spend his life with, and it won't be with me.
When I first became a member I didn't really interact with him much, but I always thought he was interesting. He seemed really nice and commented on some of my posts occasionally but I never really replied to any of them because I kind of knew I would get "feelings" for him so I tried to avoid that. He seemed really sweet and sensitive, and that is something I look for in guys or just friends in general. Well he updated his profile pic recently and I was like "wow" and before I knew it he became all I wanted to think about. It was really sad. My interest grew tenfold.
I started reading the posts he made to the group in the past and I fell into infatuation. Judging from the things he posts and how he writes his life experiences, he has a lot of qualities that I have only dreamed of in a guy. He likes some of the things I do and seems to really love Jesus. He also struggles with OCD like I do. He cares a lot for the other members of the group and is always compassionate in his replies. I'm a highly imaginative person and before I knew it, my feelings ran off with me. I really, REALLY want to get to know this guy, but I know that is near impossible. There is no way to really know a person when it's not in real life. It's like having a crush on a celebrity or a rock star--it's not real life. I'm just sad because...well, I'm scared I will never come across a guy like this one. He's really different, and I like that.
He doesn't live in USA so I hardly have any chance of ever getting to meet this guy. That is what makes me feel weird about it. I think I should unadd him from my friends list and leave that group, or at least leave until I get my head back on earth. I'm feeling a little ashamed and disappointed in myself in that I am developing interest for someone online. How pathetic is that?
What drives my struggle with this is, I think deep down I am lonely. I'm scared time is running out and before I know it all the good guys will be taken. I'm 24 years old and almost every girl I knew from childhood is already married or is going to be. Especially Christian guys..they go as fast as they come. When I turn 30 it will be too late; they will all be taken.
I have cried a few times about it, thinking about my own mental health issues and how it wouldn't really be a good idea to get involved with someone. I would just drag them down.
So, how can I let this guy go? Or the idea of him? I'm hurting inside thinking someday this guy is going to find someone to spend his life with, and it won't be with me.
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