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I have a mental illness and it makes me not the most social person in the world. Ever since I could remember, I have always had problems becoming close with children and babies. I currently have 3 nieces and 2 nephews and I just can't seem to get them to talk to me and treat me as well as they treat their grandmother or my mother and grandfather or my father. I can't get them to ask me questions and just talk to me. I have to ask questions to really have a conversation with them.
My mom says that what I am currently doing, just speaking to them when I see them, is a great thing. She says that she's not hip and everything and she has to go to them and grab them because "those little boogers just want to play, they don't want hugs and kisses". I want to be a great aunt but I don't want to do too much of what the children don't want me to do. For example of what I'm trying to say, if my nieces are playing too rough, I should tell them to stop but telling them to stop makes me look uncool in their eyes and may further distance them from me but at the same time I want to be respected.
My nieces are 12 and 8 and my nephews are 12 and 14. They are growing up so fast! I love them, but I wish I could have gotten closer to them when they were babies. In fact, they are at the age that it may be too late to have a relationship with them. Whatever they are to think of me, they already believe it. It's too late to make a different impression. Because of my troubles with children and babies, it makes me really hesitate to have my own babies. I just don't know.
Does anyone here have any advice or have children or babies? Are there any books or vidoes you guys could suggest?
I love children, but I just don't know how to do this.
God bless and thank you for reading and thank you for any responses.
I have a mental illness and it makes me not the most social person in the world. Ever since I could remember, I have always had problems becoming close with children and babies. I currently have 3 nieces and 2 nephews and I just can't seem to get them to talk to me and treat me as well as they treat their grandmother or my mother and grandfather or my father. I can't get them to ask me questions and just talk to me. I have to ask questions to really have a conversation with them.
My mom says that what I am currently doing, just speaking to them when I see them, is a great thing. She says that she's not hip and everything and she has to go to them and grab them because "those little boogers just want to play, they don't want hugs and kisses". I want to be a great aunt but I don't want to do too much of what the children don't want me to do. For example of what I'm trying to say, if my nieces are playing too rough, I should tell them to stop but telling them to stop makes me look uncool in their eyes and may further distance them from me but at the same time I want to be respected.
My nieces are 12 and 8 and my nephews are 12 and 14. They are growing up so fast! I love them, but I wish I could have gotten closer to them when they were babies. In fact, they are at the age that it may be too late to have a relationship with them. Whatever they are to think of me, they already believe it. It's too late to make a different impression. Because of my troubles with children and babies, it makes me really hesitate to have my own babies. I just don't know.
Does anyone here have any advice or have children or babies? Are there any books or vidoes you guys could suggest?
I love children, but I just don't know how to do this.
God bless and thank you for reading and thank you for any responses.