For me personally I've thought about this a little bit and can safely say I have almost no desire to ever get into one. I've looked around at the marriages in my life or other married couples I see, and not once did I ever think "I want what they have." I know some people are bothered by couples because they don't have a significant other but it doesn't bother me and I'd rather not be in that situation. My dad has tried to pressure me to get into some kind of relationship since i was like 12, thankfully I've moved in a state far away from him so I no longer have to hear him keep bringing up why I need to be in a relationship. And how I need to be in a relationship so I can be happy.
I've had a lot of people ask me, "You don't want to find a girlfriend"? Over the years. I guess people find my attitude towards relationships strange. I just don't think a relationship is worth giving up personal freedom. I realize relationships take a lot of time and commitment and effort and give and take and I have no interest in any of that. I just don't need the hassle. I also realize a lot of people in these marriages regret it after a period of time. Part of me also realizes how superficial relationships are. Perhaps you eventually learn to love the person you go out with eventually, but the reasons for why both of you decided to enter the relationship are always superficial. And that is probably the main reason most marriages end in divorce. Nothing worst than finding out the person you married is someone you eventually hate the most.
I don't think being single is right for everybody, but I do feel people who feel so lonely and desperate for a relationship have to find out for themselves what its like and if they are better off or not. Look I get it, some people just can't stand being alone and must always be in a relationship or they feel worthless. For these people maybe choosing the lesser of two evils is best. But I think if you love yourself, know your true worth, you come to a point where you realize you don't even need to be in a relationship to be happy. If you can only be happy if you are with someone, what kind of happiness is that really? Happiness dependent on others will always lead to disappointment. People will always let you down eventually. I say don't put your happiness in other peoples hands. Why give someone else that kind of power over you?
I use to be so desperate to be liked, to perhaps get in a relationship, but I value my personal happiness more than I do being liked or getting into a relationship. Sure we do hear stories of people who have been married for 60-70 years. I don't find that very appealing myself though. Once I realized my true worth, I realized I am better off not being in a relationship and restricting myself one way or another. This post has gone on long enough but how do you all feel about relationships? How bad do you personally want to be in one?
I've had a lot of people ask me, "You don't want to find a girlfriend"? Over the years. I guess people find my attitude towards relationships strange. I just don't think a relationship is worth giving up personal freedom. I realize relationships take a lot of time and commitment and effort and give and take and I have no interest in any of that. I just don't need the hassle. I also realize a lot of people in these marriages regret it after a period of time. Part of me also realizes how superficial relationships are. Perhaps you eventually learn to love the person you go out with eventually, but the reasons for why both of you decided to enter the relationship are always superficial. And that is probably the main reason most marriages end in divorce. Nothing worst than finding out the person you married is someone you eventually hate the most.
I don't think being single is right for everybody, but I do feel people who feel so lonely and desperate for a relationship have to find out for themselves what its like and if they are better off or not. Look I get it, some people just can't stand being alone and must always be in a relationship or they feel worthless. For these people maybe choosing the lesser of two evils is best. But I think if you love yourself, know your true worth, you come to a point where you realize you don't even need to be in a relationship to be happy. If you can only be happy if you are with someone, what kind of happiness is that really? Happiness dependent on others will always lead to disappointment. People will always let you down eventually. I say don't put your happiness in other peoples hands. Why give someone else that kind of power over you?
I use to be so desperate to be liked, to perhaps get in a relationship, but I value my personal happiness more than I do being liked or getting into a relationship. Sure we do hear stories of people who have been married for 60-70 years. I don't find that very appealing myself though. Once I realized my true worth, I realized I am better off not being in a relationship and restricting myself one way or another. This post has gone on long enough but how do you all feel about relationships? How bad do you personally want to be in one?
