How and when should I tell my mother I've been baptized?

[Jackson Cooper]

I am scheduled to be baptized on Holy Saturday, April 7th. Should I just come home with wet hair and tell my mom "I got baptized into the Eastern Orthodox Church!" or should I tell her before?

My mother does not approve a of icons, priests, or Mary's highly regarded status.
"She's just the woman who gave birth to Jesus!" is something she said.

I really do think she would love Eastern Orthodoxy if she gave it a chance. The church I go to is so humble and nice. I think I'll win her over eventually. This could be the first step. I think giving someone information is more effective than arguing. By being baptized and expressing happiness, I'll be showing her that the church is having a positive impact on me.

 

[~Anastasia~]

I am scheduled to be baptized on Holy Saturday, April 7th. Should I just come home with wet hair and tell my mom "I got baptized into the Eastern Orthodox Church!" or should I tell her before?

My mother does not approve a of icons, priests, or Mary's highly regarded status.
"She's just the woman who gave birth to Jesus!" is something she said.

I really do think she would love Eastern Orthodoxy if she gave it a chance. The church I go to is so humble and nice. I think I'll win her over eventually. This could be the first step. I think giving someone information is more effective than arguing. By being baptized and expressing happiness, I'll be showing her that the church is having a positive impact on me.

This is really hard for us to say since we don't know you or your mother in person. Whatever I might suggest, I could be completely wrong. Better to talk to your priest, I think.

 

[ArmyMatt]

I agree, talk to your priest. and be patient with how she handles your reception into the Church.

 

[Glaucus]

staff edit

Without being rude, people who don't understand icons, the priesthood, or Mary's significant role cannot be considered wise.

 

[SaNcTaMaRiA]

If you are an adult then just tell her. Don't be ashamed of Jesus. If she gets mad tell her you at least didn't join the idol worshiping Catholics . I'm kidding of course we don't worship idols.

Your mom isnt wise she is ignorant. You have a great responsibility to teach her.

 

[All4Christ]

I don’t know your mother (obviously ), so I can’t say what is best. That said, my Dad found out that I became a catechumen off the parish website. He was very hurt that I didn’t tell them myself beforehand. They ended up coming to my chrismation despite disagreeing with my choice...thy still wanted to support me.

 

[ArmyMatt]

I told my folks about my conversion, there was some initial hesitation, but slowly they have come around.

 

[ArmyMatt]

You have wise mother which is very rare to find nowdays not like mine who uses words like "lol" being near 50 , listen to her you lucky one .

what do you mean and what does this have to do with the topic?

 

[All4Christ]

I told my folks about my conversion, there was some initial hesitation, but slowly they have come around.

Mine as well

 

[Jackson Cooper]

I really do think my mother would love the church. She's just ignorant.

 

[Andrei D]

I had an unexpectedly good experience with my mother in law. When my wife got baptized she initially didn't say anything for a long while. Then out of the blue she called wanting to know more about the Church, and she said she might even want to come see our Church with us when she visits. Now she had her travel plans upended by some unexpected events and she called that she needs to postpone her arrival to April 7 and she called and asked if we will be planning to go to Church at all that weekend she'd like to join us...

 

[Hermit76]

Lol... My family saw our baptisms on Facebook and we have never discussed it. I am an adult and I make my own choices.

My oldest son and his wife are in the process of leaving Evangelicalism for Anglicanism (ACNA). They told his wife's family today and the dad got huffy but he got over it. Again, they're adults. It is their choice.

How old are you? Do you live with your mom?

 

[Jackson Cooper]

Lol... My family saw our baptisms on Facebook and we have never discussed it. I am an adult and I make my own choices.

My oldest son and his wife are in the process of leaving Evangelicalism for Anglicanism (ACNA). They told his wife's family today and the dad got huffy but he got over it. Again, they're adults. It is their choice.

How old are you? Do you live with your mom?

I turn 22 on the 26th this month, and yes.

 

[Hermit76]

I turn 22 on the 26th this month, and yes.

Living with anybody takes tact and a lot of consideration. Mishandling something could make both of you miserable. I would talk to the priest if I were you. As someone pointed out, we don't know your mom. It's tough to name that call

 

[gzt]

Unless you have a good reason not to, and I don't know your mother, you should tell her beforehand.

 

[gurneyhalleck1]

Perhaps I missed this detail, but did the OP invite Mom to the baptism? That’s a place to start.

Also, these comments about OP’s Mom not being wise or being wise or being ignorant, ugh....it’s Lent for corn sake. No need for this....

 

[All4Christ]

Perhaps I missed this detail, but did the OP invite Mom to the baptism? That’s a place to start.

Also, these comments about OP’s Mom not being wise or being wise or being ignorant, ugh....it’s Lent for corn sake. No need for this....

I invited mine. I didn’t think they would be interested in coming, but it meant so much when they did.