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Honestly.....

Leah

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Why all these questions about sex before marriage?? Its as if God's word doesn't mean anything anymore. It doesn't take a rocket scientists to figure out that sex should be saved for marriage only. Sex is a very serious, scared and intimate joining of two people as one flesh. Shouldn't that in itself be of value to you? Besides, why would you even want to have sex with someone you're not even married to and run into the risk of breaking up anyway? Why put yourself in that much unesseccary heartache and headache?

Sure, we all have natural desires to be held and kissed and everything else that comes with physical intimacy, but that's where you tell yourself to slow your roll and KNOW THE LIMIT. If you're not married but feel its nesseccary to ask people about when is the proper time to have sex, then that should be a red flag to you to not do it, period. Its that simple.

You'll be doing yourself a huge favor in the end by keeping this simple and painless. Know what I mean? :D

Such threads. :p
 

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I agree. Some people out there like to make those kind of threads so they can find some sort of validility with others that do it out there. Of course in the back of their mind they know they are wrong.
 
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Yeah i know we all go through this. In fact it was me saying why all the questions about it, we all know to wait it says. But then when your so positive and people ask you questions you start to think oh yeah? etc... im not saying anyone is wrong or right in the matter. Im saying we all make our mistakes and we all know how it feels. I think i need to make my testimony and put it up so people understand my opinions on here.
 
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Blue Impulse said:
Maybe this is part of the problem though

Maybe a passive attitude "maybe your wrong maybe your right, who am I to say" is whats causing a huge void in today's society that young people are filling with sex simply because no one is condemning it.

Pre-marital sex is WRONG. Why are we so hesitant to say this? Its wrong. Its wrong by God's standards, and its wrong by a lot of other standards as well.

I had pre-marital sex, I'm anything but perfect, Christ came to save sinners of whom I am the worst ^_^ But I can say: I was WRONG. Thats why I know that I have to tell this to other people. If I was passive about it, I wouldn't feel convicted about showing others the truth in God's Word. I could just say "meh, oh well, let them do what they want"

But if something is WRONG we need to stand up about it, and if something is RIGHT we need to stand up *for* it.

Less passive, more active.

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Tell it! :amen: :amen: Couldn't have said it better myself. :thumbsup:

I find it quite annoying when people have this "there is no right or wrong" mindset. That's like saying there's no such thing or need as/for common sense.
 
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Why all these questions about sex before marriage?? Its as if God's word doesn't mean anything anymore. It doesn't take a rocket scientists to figure out that sex should be saved for marriage only. Sex is a very serious, scared and intimate joining of two people as one flesh. Shouldn't that in itself be of value to you? Besides, why would you even want to have sex with someone you're not even married to and run into the risk of breaking up anyway? Why put yourself in that much unesseccary heartache and headache?
Because society is telling us all loud and clear that sex IS the relationship. If you're not having sex, he's just not that into you.

Christian society, on the whole, unfortunately doesn't do much to tell us any different. Sure, it says 'don't have sex before marriage', but doesn't tend to give us any ideas on what to do with our 'significant other' to build intimacy in the meantime! It's easy to go to a christian church our whole lives and still have the misconception that 'intimacy' = sex.

Vent finished, btw :D
 
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hey folks, just a friendly reminder to keep it to a dull roar. While I understand how frustrating and difficult it is that people ask these questions it is important to remember that people ask questions for a reason. If they weren't asking questions and just doing it anyways there would be more to worry about. CF is a place for people to come and feel comfortable asking for advice without having people attack them for it. Yes, pre-marital sex is wrong, but please address this in a more loving manner. We're all sinners and we all deserve the same love and respect from each other. Be patient, it may take some longer to get it than others.

Thanks, and God bless, all!

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