I am a young adult ( recently turned 26) and I am wondering about homosexuality so I KNOW it is wrong, but how do I know that while still treating such people with respect? How do I NOT accept it while at the same time not treating them as if they have three eyes? I live in the south ( Bible belt) The fact is gay is here and it always has been and the fact is that frankly whether a person is gay or not has NO impact on their ability to preform most jobs ( unless it is based at a church Also, I find it wrong to refuse to serve someone on that basis ( provided that it is not something like a wedding cake or pictures for their wedding, nor quite frankly do I consider it any of my business whether someone is sleeping with the same sex ( provided they do not like do it in public or something but that applies to everyone there are just some things that should be private. I mean you do not asks other couples about the bedroom ( or should not unless you are say a medical professional and the issue at hand has something to do with that. I am stuck I do not want to say it is OK, but at the same time I do not want to treat them like they have three eyes or refuse to help/serve/ hire them ( if I was in such a position). Where is that line because my young brain cannot seem to find it?
Quick testimony: I'm 25, almost going on 26 and I have once identified as a bisexual Christian. I was confused on how am I going to approach the world, how am I to tell my parents, am I going to church, LGBT church now?, how I now feel about gay marriage, how this, how that. I got so wrapped up in how I identify myself, how to behave, approach things, etc. No matter how nice it felt that wow now I get to live how I want to, I wasn't honest with myself. I try to get inspired by youtubers of LGBT, but then I saw the sadness in their eyes, as pretty as they look. I kept wondering, why? They found themselves, why do they look so tormented? God convicted me through a youtube video, as the person on there brought me back to a verse "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any
man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me." (Matthew 16:24). I questioned whether or not I have truly denied myself.Why do I have to deny myself? I realized I have to because the very nature of me is sinful, whether its the norm of society or not.In short, God delivered me and now I find identity in Him.
I'm saying all that to say this. This world have a fantastic way of boxing our sinful nature into nice neat labels. "You feel this way? You desire this? There's a word for that, and if anyone disagrees with you, shame on them!" Jesus ask to deny ourselves, that goes for any label imaginable on the planet, because at the end of the day, we all are under the same sinful nature, give the right environment and any one of us can become anything under the sun.These labels, our desires, our wants, our dreams in this world, means absolutely nothing to what God wants for us, eternal life. And to be children of God. These labels of our attraction and desires are distractions. They distract us on God's intention of sex, of marriage, of things that God created not to make us feel good, or because it feels natural, but because it's meant to give God glory. That's it. Once you accept how God view things through His Word, and understand his desire for people to not be lost, the fruits of that will come in your speech and actions.
If someone, like I was, was simply lost, how would you point them to the right direction? Would you be angry that they are lost, don't mind if they get lost, or tell them how to get to the place they need to be?Are your expectations that you would be the one to show them, or that they will get there whether it's you or not, as long as they are walking in the right direction? Would you tell them other directions if you know there's only one way to get there? How well do you know that direction? Would you point to someone else who better knows the direction if you weren't so clear? Would you take it to heart if they weren't so receptive? Usually, we don't run up to people and go "hey are you lost?" unless they look lost. If they tell us they are lost, we ought to help them.We guide them based on the direction, despite who or what condition they are, but we also correct them out of the desire to see them go to the right place. That's it.
Love is not based on the person, but love is simply the hope to see others go to the right place despite the person.Those who don't know this, who do not know what love actually is, do not know God.
