It's always good to judge something you are not.
Many homosexuals report depression and other psychological symptoms, particularly in the early formative years
What a daft strawman. Where have you seen anybody use that line of argument? I have heard many gay people saying that they have always felt attracted towards the same sex rather than the opposite sex, but that hardly bolsters your argument that homosexuality is a learned trait, does it?But to say "I've always felt different and therefore I am homosexual" is oversimplified.
Obviously nothing as complex as human sexuality can be controlled by a single gene, however, there is evidence of a strong genetic factor in homosexuality:There is no "gay gene." No scientist can claim that a gene causes the form of behavior known as homosexuality.
http://allpsych.com/journal/homosexuality.html
J. Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard also studied the gayness between MZ twins, DZ twins, and non-related adopted brothers. They examined how many of the sample population examined were gay and how many were straight. They found that 52% of MZ twins were both self-identified homosexuals, 22% of DZ twins were so, and only 5% of non-related adopted brothers were so. This evidence, repeated and found to be true a second time, showed to the biological camp that the more closely genetically linked a pair is, the more likely they both are to exhibit gay or straight tendencies. Later experimenters found similar evidence in females. One such scientist is Dean Hamer. Hamer examined the possibility of homosexuality being an X-linked trait. He examined the family trees of openly gay men, and thought he saw a maternal link, leading him to investigate his theory of X-linkage. He took 40 DNA samples from homosexual men, and genetically examined them. He found that there was a 'remarkable concordance' for 5 genetic markers on section of the X-Chromosome called Xq28 [2].
SackLunch said:Based on the psychology of youth, I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice. I also believe that because of growing acceptance of homosexuality, it is encouraging people to "come out of the closet." Also, there exists a train of thought in sociology that we are all born with a "clean slate," or that all behaviors are learned, not innate. This states that it is our psychological and physical environment that determines our personality and behavior characteristics.
Many homosexuals report depression and other psychological symptoms, particularly in the early formative years. There is often abuse in the family, or an absent parent. Very few professed homosexuals have come from stable backgrounds with two heterosexual parents. Often times homosexuals will say they have "always felt different," but who doesn't?
When I was young, I felt different too. But it obviously didn't mean I was homosexual. There's probably some psychological issues from my own youth I haven't fully worked out yet, but everyone has these issues too. But to say "I've always felt different and therefore I am homosexual" is oversimplified. It's a seeking after that which will not help the psychology of the individual, but harm him or her.
There is no "gay gene." No scientist can claim that a gene causes the form of behavior known as homosexuality. And already, programs in place prove that yes, a person can become a heterosexual if they have so-called homosexual leanings.
I firmly believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, and I have both modern psychology, sociology, and most important, the Bible to back me up.
Can you define for me, please, what you think a straight or heterosexual person is?SackLunch said:Based on the psychology of youth, I believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice. I also believe that because of growing acceptance of homosexuality, it is encouraging people to "come out of the closet." Also, there exists a train of thought in sociology that we are all born with a "clean slate," or that all behaviors are learned, not innate. This states that it is our psychological and physical environment that determines our personality and behavior characteristics.
Many homosexuals report depression and other psychological symptoms, particularly in the early formative years. There is often abuse in the family, or an absent parent. Very few professed homosexuals have come from stable backgrounds with two heterosexual parents. Often times homosexuals will say they have "always felt different," but who doesn't?
When I was young, I felt different too. But it obviously didn't mean I was homosexual. There's probably some psychological issues from my own youth I haven't fully worked out yet, but everyone has these issues too. But to say "I've always felt different and therefore I am homosexual" is oversimplified. It's a seeking after that which will not help the psychology of the individual, but harm him or her.
There is no "gay gene." No scientist can claim that a gene causes the form of behavior known as homosexuality. And already, programs in place prove that yes, a person can become a heterosexual if they have so-called homosexual leanings.
I firmly believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, and I have both modern psychology, sociology, and most important, the Bible to back me up.
SackLunch said:Many homosexuals report depression and other psychological symptoms, particularly in the early formative years. There is often abuse in the family, or an absent parent. Very few professed homosexuals have come from stable backgrounds with two heterosexual parents. Often times homosexuals will say they have "always felt different," but who doesn't?
SackLunch said:But to say "I've always felt different and therefore I am homosexual" is oversimplified. It's a seeking after that which will not help the psychology of the individual, but harm him or her..
Well I don't even know what you mean by that. A person can become hetero if they learn "gay"?SackLunch said:And already, programs in place prove that yes, a person can become a heterosexual if they have so-called homosexual leanings.
I completely disagree. I don't think people make a conscious choice to be ostracized and judged by societySackLunch said:I firmly believe homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, and I have both modern psychology, sociology, and most important, the Bible to back me up.
vipertaja said:It's always good to judge something you are not.
gaijin178 said:I will never accept it when someone says that homosexuality is a choice. I fear that most of the people who make statements like this have never had any contact with someone who is homosexual or even been able to call one a friend.
I was walking with my girlfriend, another friend and his boyfriend the other night on the beach. They were holding hands like everyone else walking on the beach that evening. They got stared at, yelled at, called horrible things, and all they did was walk down the beach like everyone else. I am sure that they really chose that lifestyle. They are constantly hurt because they can't show any affection in public like the rest of us do and it causes them so much pain. Again, why would anyone chose that?
If you feel scared, have you chosen to feel that way? How about when you feel sad? or happy? Why are feelings of attraction any different? The only choice being made is how to deal with those feelings. Should you act on them? Recognize them? Try and change them? That's the choice. And I don't see a problem with choosing to recognize and act on romantic feelings for someone of the same sex (provided, of course, that person is an adult, is receptive, etc etc).cameronw said:Just because you can't accept it doesn't mean anything. While their feelings for one another may be genuine nothing has been shown to prove that it isn't a lifestyle choice.
beechy said:I'll tell a bit of my story again -- it's been a while. I've been comfortably "straight" all my life. My parents are married. I was never abused. I've dated a number of men. The only time I have ever experienced what in retrospect recognize as depression was during a particularly bad breakup with an ex-boyfriend. One day in my mid twenties I met a woman at work and we became fast friends. Our friendship grew deeper after I left that job and eventually I started to realize I was developing feelings for her that extended beyond my typical same-sex friendships. It wasn't because I was lonely -- I was dating a couple of different guys at the time and had a strong group of friends. But for whatever reason I was becoming attracted to this woman physically, as I normally might be with a man, and was feeling closer and closer to her emotionally. And I could tell that she was feeling the same way. I struggled with these feelings initially, because it was so far outside my usual sense of sexuality. I asked myself why I would stop myself from acting on these feelings as I would with a man. As I peeled away the layers I realized that the only thing that would stop me would be fear -- fear of what other people would think, fear of what that would "make" me (gay?), fear of how it would affect my comfortable, easy life. I prayed as well. I didn't worry about it being a "sin", however, because I didn't believe that the Bible condemned homosexuality (yes, I've read the oft cited passages, yes, I've prayed on it). Ultimately, I decided to go with it. We've been happily together ever since (nearly a year). I have no idea why I started to feel the way I feel about her and honestly, I don't really care. But I love her, we treat each other well, and we have a comfortable life together.
So again, what does it mean to be "straight"? What does it mean to be "gay"? Is it a lifestyle? Is it a feeling? Who knows? Who cares? A preference is a preference, wherever it comes from. Some people don't like vanilla ice cream because they just don't think it tastes good, other people don't like vanilla ice cream because they were forced to eat it during fraternity hazing until they puked, and now it carries a nauseating association -- why does it matter either way? The result is the same -- they're both going to avoid vanilla and go for chocolate ...
The only reason anyone would care about other people's preferences, be they innate or learned, is because they think there is a problem with people acting on that preference.
If I prefer to kill, I would expect people to have a problem with me acting on that preference. But if I prefer to come home to my girl, why is that a problem for you, me, or anyone else? Who are we hurting? We're happy, we're stable, we have great communication, we're productive members of society, and I'd wager that our home life looks a lot like that of other opposite sex couples. The only objection I can think of is a religious one, and I simply don't agree that the Bible condemns homosexuality.
I'm confused how can you say that thier feelings for each other are genuine but you say its a choice. Isn't that a bit contradictory?cameronw said:Just because you can't accept it doesn't mean anything. While their feelings for one another may be genuine nothing has been shown to prove that it isn't a lifestyle choice. Having many wifes is a lifestyle choice but you don't see people accepting it do you. I don't accept homosexuality as anything other than a lifestyle choice.
http://home.earthlink.net/~mlbakke1/lifestyl.htm
-cw
No problem. Thank YOU for listening! This relationship has been a very educational experience for me and I honestly belief that she is a gift from God to teach me about life, love, and tolerance -- because before she came along, although I had a number of gay friends I just didn't "get it". God always seems to have a way of helping me "get it". But I'll admit, this lesson was certainly unexpectedBlessed2003 said:Thanks beechy, sometimes all I need is an insider's perspective and I can see it in a totally different way.
I must admit, fear is the driving force behind the belief that homosexuality is wrong, for me, it always has been. I was taught that and because in my home growing up, the Bible was the number one source for all of our families core beliefs, I wasn't allowed to question it, to do that would be to 'spit in God's face'
I still fear speaking of the issue truthfully, because of the religious aspect of it.
Anway, thanks,
B~
Notice that Paul isn't a God.SackLunch said:Notice that God said homosexual offenders.
Homosexuality is the same as murder? CharmingCan a convicted murderer claim he was "born to murder" because of a murder gene? Can a rapist claim he raped a hundred women and young boys because he was born that way? Of course not. They all made the choice to offend. There was obviously psychological trauma inflicted on these individuals at some point, and that created the conditions for their actions. But they CHOSE to behave the way they did.
It is no different with homosexuality.
http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_bibc1.htm said:"The original Greek text describes the two behaviors as "malakoi" (some sources quote "malakee,") and "arsenokoitai." Although these is often translated by modern Bibles as "homosexual," we can be fairly certain that this is not the meaning that Paul wanted to convey. If he had, he would have used the Greek word "paiderasste." That was the standard term at the time for male homosexuals. We can conclude that he probably meant something different from persons who engaged in male-male adult sexual behavior.