I am 24 years old and I feel I have no social skills and it is starting to cause problems in my everyday life now that I am grown. I may have some social skills but they are not enough to help me properly function as an adult. I was homeschooled my entire childhood and later unschooled once I became a pre-teen. My mother got ill with health issues and couldn't teach me anymore and I never finished my education. My parents asked me several times if I wanted to go to public school but I think we both knew I wasn't "caught up" with my grade level to enroll. So it was one of those things that went by unnoticed. When I was a teenager I spent all of my days cooped up in my bedroom on the computer making AMVs and watching Youtube videos. I slept all day long and stayed up all night. I was enrolled in dance lessons twice a week when I turned 14 but by that time it was too late, I didn't know how to make or keep friends. Heck, I didn't know how to talk to people. I also went to youth group once a week around that time but still I didn't know how to talk to people or make friends and I always sat by myself.
When I was 12 I was so lonely I would sit in a lawn chair in my front yard waiting for a kid to walk by so I could go introduce myself to them (I really did that). I would walk up to people asking them if they wanted to be my friend. That is how weird I was. Looking back I can't believe I had the moxie to do such an outrageous social stunt. I truly defied the rules of sociology and it makes me smile. But now I cringe because I can't do stuff like that anymore. I can't go to the park and sit on the bench waiting for someone to come by so I can ask them, "hey, wanna play in the sandbox with me?". It's like my brain never caught up with the rest of me. In many ways I still feel like a child. I think it is because I never had the social opportunities most people have when they go to public school and evolve with their peers. Instead I was bored at home all day with no friends to hang out with. I really believe homeschooling did me a disservice. Not to say that all homeschooling is bad, for some families I think it could work well if done properly and if the parents know what they are doing.
Now onto my problem. I am having a difficult time learning how to function in the real world and I don't know how I am to survive. I have a job (by some miracle) that I worked hard for by getting my GED and doing volunteer data entry work from home. The only part is, I have zero social or communication skills. It is hard for me to "mingle" with my co-workers (there's only two of them so that makes it worse) because I don't know what to say. I also stutter and so that makes me anxious to even say anything at all, so as a result I keep quiet. I do my work and go home. When I need to ask for help on something I panic because I don't want to sound like an idiot and don't know how to word it. I wait until the last minute before finally asking. When I answer the phones I stutter and accidentally interrupt people because I do not know when it is my turn to speak. It is so bad that I am heavily considering finding work as a housecleaning lady or janitor because then I wouldn't have to talk and look stupid. I honestly worry for my future because I can't communicate with others. I am too socially anxious and awkward to hold anyone attention. Sometimes I can say something and nobody hears me or they change the subject like what I had to say was unimportant. I don't think I am autistic because I still have tons of emotional empathy and I can read other people very well--I just can't be social. I can't talk. I can't be normal. I can't even dress normally. I dress in grandma dresses and tye-dye tunics with blue jeans and bandannas. I am the typical homeschool freakshow everyone likes to make jokes about. It hurts but I have come to accept that I am just different. I don't want to be this way, but I kind of enjoy my uniqueness. I just wish I wouldn't scare people off. I feel like I make people uncomfortable. I can't blame them because if I saw someone like me I would be like, "what the heck?"
When I was 12 I was so lonely I would sit in a lawn chair in my front yard waiting for a kid to walk by so I could go introduce myself to them (I really did that). I would walk up to people asking them if they wanted to be my friend. That is how weird I was. Looking back I can't believe I had the moxie to do such an outrageous social stunt. I truly defied the rules of sociology and it makes me smile. But now I cringe because I can't do stuff like that anymore. I can't go to the park and sit on the bench waiting for someone to come by so I can ask them, "hey, wanna play in the sandbox with me?". It's like my brain never caught up with the rest of me. In many ways I still feel like a child. I think it is because I never had the social opportunities most people have when they go to public school and evolve with their peers. Instead I was bored at home all day with no friends to hang out with. I really believe homeschooling did me a disservice. Not to say that all homeschooling is bad, for some families I think it could work well if done properly and if the parents know what they are doing.
Now onto my problem. I am having a difficult time learning how to function in the real world and I don't know how I am to survive. I have a job (by some miracle) that I worked hard for by getting my GED and doing volunteer data entry work from home. The only part is, I have zero social or communication skills. It is hard for me to "mingle" with my co-workers (there's only two of them so that makes it worse) because I don't know what to say. I also stutter and so that makes me anxious to even say anything at all, so as a result I keep quiet. I do my work and go home. When I need to ask for help on something I panic because I don't want to sound like an idiot and don't know how to word it. I wait until the last minute before finally asking. When I answer the phones I stutter and accidentally interrupt people because I do not know when it is my turn to speak. It is so bad that I am heavily considering finding work as a housecleaning lady or janitor because then I wouldn't have to talk and look stupid. I honestly worry for my future because I can't communicate with others. I am too socially anxious and awkward to hold anyone attention. Sometimes I can say something and nobody hears me or they change the subject like what I had to say was unimportant. I don't think I am autistic because I still have tons of emotional empathy and I can read other people very well--I just can't be social. I can't talk. I can't be normal. I can't even dress normally. I dress in grandma dresses and tye-dye tunics with blue jeans and bandannas. I am the typical homeschool freakshow everyone likes to make jokes about. It hurts but I have come to accept that I am just different. I don't want to be this way, but I kind of enjoy my uniqueness. I just wish I wouldn't scare people off. I feel like I make people uncomfortable. I can't blame them because if I saw someone like me I would be like, "what the heck?"