Yes this is the first time this happened ever. Like I said he wasn't happy about paying my debt before we got married but with that there was just some grumbling and he acquiesced when his parents got involved and the couples minister spoke to him.
It was particularly shocking because he spent more on the tickets to Hamilton ( which I appreciated but didn't ask for) then on the winch which he felt he had to buy right away. Here is a bit more context, we argued about this at 4 on a Saturday and he rushed out at 5 to spend away the money he hoarded. Normally for something big and expensive like a winch he takes weeks to shop around for a deal and haggles. But for this situation he basically changed his entire personality, I have really never seen him act so rashly.
Given that this is the first time he acted this way, I would say that this is definitely something you can resolve. It would be a much bigger problem if he had a pattern of impulsive behavior.
I think this is a sign that he felt cornered. Perhaps he was afraid you would use the money he had saved, against his wishes, and so he panicked. It sounds like maybe he was also bothered by having to wait so long to buy the things he had saved up for, and it all boiled over.
I fully believe this situation can be used to actually strengthen your marriage and grow closer to one another, but you have to both be willing to talk it through with patience and understanding.
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