- Dec 29, 2018
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Single
I am Rachel and I got divorced approx in 2007. I filed, and I am and have been single since which I feel completely content with. I almost feel too content but I am not at all broken hearted or still grieving, I’m fine. I have just been busy in and out of courts with my ex and custody issues with our kids and child support. I literally have nothing to my name and live in my parents basement, no car and my plan to go back to school has been stalled because my ex is demanding his child support I can’t pay, imputed charges on me, no job and have just made life miserable for me. Oh, by the way, he is remarried. He is self employed. Has a house with his wife, 2 boats, 2 new vehicles, money in the bank, which I am not jealous of at all because our kids have a nice home with their dad and with me with their grandparents. The wife has refused to meet me so I dont know who my kids live with, I accepted that because after 7 years, it may pose as more of a problem and toxic. She intercepts all emails and communication with me and my ex about our kids, he refuses to mediate, bring me to court and claim I’m in contempt, try to reduce my parenting time and just ridiculous things like when I was at my sons dental appt and she brought my son, I kindly said I can finish filling out his intake work and she would not let go of the clipboard and ended in pushing me and ripping up the paperwork and throwing it in the direction of the receptionist. “You can go to your sons orientation from 9-910 and leave and dad will go from 910-920.” Like shut up! My ex and I, I am convinced we could be good friends and have a healthy relationship for our kids because there are zero feelings there but deemed the jealous ex wife. FYI- I am a pastors kid who got knocked up by My ex so there was a little pressure there to get married for the wrong reason. We were 21. Friends since middle school. I showed up to the wedding. I did my part. I filed, I wanted out. The wife is just cruel and tells my kids I’m trying to steal them away, “you aren’t going to kindergarten because your mom won’t let you” because my son was diagnosed with a delay so retention in Kindergarten was an option before that occurred, scare my kids and say, “if you mom comes around here, you won’t have a mom because she’ll go to jail.” The amount of cruel things she says to my boys, I don’t think I could say to any child. They disparaged me to my kids school and so the school has broke our court order in favor of my ex bc I’m this evil person. I have had my kids call her on mother’s day and say happy mother’s day, for the clothes our son had grown out of, I sent to their dads for their youngest son as brothers hand me downs. I honestly don’t know what has fueled this 7 year battle as all I literally have is organs to give. It’s sad because Co-parenting can be a good gig and in our kids best interest. I finally just checked out like I’m done, limit contact, set boundaries, and done getting my hopes up that a “hi” is moving forward rather than alleged harassment. So, I get a call from my drunk ex and he says a random 7 years later at 1030 pm that he was telling our son how we met and danced and okay? I kind of stick to funny memories but whatever and he just wants to move forward and be friends and co parent. Well, why did I never think of that? What a great idea but 7 years later, we just went to court and he’s still trying to have this hold on me so I can’t go to court until I pay my ransom check. Am I wrong for being upset that my son struggles in school and presents with behavioral issues that went dismissed when I vocalized my concerns, the school breakjng the court order in my ex’s favor and feel like a joke parent, annoyed for 7 years of this and now just expected to be friends. I feel like proceed with caution is appropriate and I really don’t want to communicate with him at all because it’s her and I just get slammed like, “since you don’t support your kids...” it’s so annoying and I really want to be left alone. 7 years of crying and praying has not seemed to pay off but rather the complete opposite.