Help me please I can't stop reading erotica

[iwanto]

Please help me with these feelings of lust, im almost tearing up here cause these futile desires weaken me.I am a female in my 20's who can't stop reading lustful stories about intimate moments best known as erotica. It's not even normal stories between a male and female but about the most deviant things you can find and even when im reading about god , next thing you know im typing the online adress of the website i read the stories from.

Psychologically speaking im trying to make up for a lack of intimacy in my life with there stories. Realistically im a 23 year old virgin who has never been with a man living in a city with the highest HIV/AIDS statistics in the whole U.S , this city loves sex, lives for sex and dies with sex. Everyone I know is in a sexual relationship of some kind. Most Women dress provocative , men get as many as they can get and so this lifestyle around me has gotten me into a circle of

self pity " poor little virgin me who is unable to get a man already just like a normal person"

Erotica is what I use to get into a world of at least imagined intimacy but I know its not real , however the desire persists .

One or two scriptures from the bibble aint gonna help me now. What I really want to know is if god or jesus can take care of my sexual needs supernaturally without sending me a man?

What kind of prayer would it appropiate to let god know I need help with this?

Also if he has a man in mind for me , how do I know? please help me.

 

[ashout]

pray!

 

[Bella Vita]

I would suggest going here Porn Addiction - Treatment and Recovery it is a christian site deals with porn and erotic addiction. They have tons of information and steps to help you stop. They have a software that you can download to your computer that will alert by email 3 people you pick to hold you accountable whenever you visit those bad websites. It much harder to visit them when you know someone else can see you do it. I know both girls and guys who have used this site to stop and to stay on track once they have stopped they have info for both men and women. It is good that you recognize the problem now the thing to do is whatever you can to stop. Get rid of the books magazines whatever and use this software to monitor you internet use.

hang in there it will get better once you get away from this then you can begin to try and find a real partner but God won't bring that to you if you continue to sin =[

 

[40creek]

Shame I'm married. You are just the kind of woman I go for.

No, I'm not refering to the erotica. I'm refering to the quiet reserved self respecting individual who abstanes from the deviant norm of her peers.
Hey, 23 is young. Very young yet. Infact as a 44 yr old I can tell you that 23 yr old guys are about 5 yrs away from comming to their sensible senses.

So relax. Your not wearing any brand that flags you as different. Enjoy being Godly and refrain from feeding your fantasies. Instead, change your fantasies. God Bless....MIKE

 

[justageek]

I used to be addicted to the same thing, too. If you want to call it addicted, that is. I can't really explain how I "got rid of it"... It just sort of went away on its own. But the lustful thoughts still remain. Stay strong.

 

[Youbrace]

Gods says to flee from sexual imorality. I stuggled with these types of addictions. The trick for me was to bring my very thoughts into obedience to christs. Just a little lustful thought leads to the sin. If I get a lustful thought now I immediately think about Christ and repent instantly and go about my day. I'm telling you that they become less and less. Im 29 and only have been a following Christian for a year and I'm just saying I know where your at.

Gods will for your sexual being is for your future husband and not for yourself. Mine is for my future wifes needs and hers for mine.

 

[Youbrace]

And god knows your desires and will fulfill them as long as you first seek his righteousness and everything else will be added to you! Pray that he may strengthen you to take the first step fleeing from sexual imorality.