To AVNIEL…
Oh believe me,
I've had MORE than enough "clues" as to what his "problem" is. I've had to
live with ALL of his signs, clues, symptoms for almost 15 yrs!
Only one member of his family mentioned anything about a couple of
his telltale symptoms, and it was a male relative. So is he wrong too?
He's known my ex all his life! He's witnessed his symptoms
and so have numerous others, including licensed therapists. I heard more
from other of his relatives later on down the road. He is without a doubt the most dangerous person I know. The damage he has done to me is indescribable. Thank you for being so "understanding".
FYI, the guy
exhibits every single symptom of narcissism TIMES TEN and all of the
symptoms of sociopathy except one.
Like Gods Word tell us….."You shall know a tree by its fruits"… unfortunately I ignored his "fruits"
(signs) in the beginning, but I don't ignore "fruits" anymore.
Your wife probably CAN tell if someone has either one or both of
these illnesses whether she's allowed to "diagnose" it or not.
( Don't worry, there's no 'competition' here )
And BTW, I am not completely "uneducated" in this field. In fact, I've wanted to get my own degree in this because
I believe that may be where God is leading me, since I have done
so much study in psychology/psychiatry and various symptoms of disorders from way back in the 90's!
I'm sure I still have lots to learn though, but I love this field of study, its so interesting. I'm wondering
if maybe I can help someone in the future? have studied tons, and am still educating myself today for when/if I'm able to get into school this fall or winter quarter. (I don't know yet.) Its difficult for my to accept anymore criticism in this matter. I've gone thru too much already and I do not deserve it. (God is my refuge!)
All three pastors in his pastoral counseling said
the same things about him regarding his "symptoms" and behavior, but he didn't like that, so didn't want to return. They may not be practicing psychologists or psychiatrists (?), but they know what they observe and it's all the same. All three of them are pretty smart and could not be fooled by his same old act. You don't know this criminal that has victimized me for almost 15 years. If you did, you would probably say the same things that everyone else who has actually gotten to KNOW him have said, including me.
And you might be able to better understand. I fully expect "the darkness" to work amongst people trying to make me think I "don't know what Im talking about", etc,etc,etc, thus excusing his horrific and abusive behavior. So therefore, I should just think that all of his sick behaviors and crimes against me are MY fault (?) and he's some sort of "perfect angel" which is his perfected act. He came a hairs breadth of getting a restraining order put on him by several girls at his last job directly
because of his deliberate and vindictive harassment upon them when they
refused to be his "narcissist supply". That's just the way he is. If you tell him "no", and/or if you confront him with what he's done wrong, look out! You will be his next target!!
I have almost 15 yrs of observing this guy.
Oh yeah, almost forgot, (how could I?)….the unbelievable damage that guy did to me has now caused me to be disabled. I have lost my memory capabilities, and am no longer able to speak very well because of the extreme stress of living w/a monster on a daily basis! Its way easier for me to do emails and/or letters becuz it gives me the time I need to recollect and find the words and spelling that I so often forget now.
It gives me more time to think. The only way I can describe it is…its like a short in an electrical system working its way through the entire thing bit by bit.
But oh yes, it can be extremely frustrating still. I flinch at every loud noise (embarrassing) and can't face people very well becuz I am terrified they will just also somehow attack me in some way. I can't sleep at all, or hardly, and all I can do is walk, walk, walk , walk, walk. What he did to me makes it where its hard for me to be even comfortable in my own home, and hard to be still. I have a hard time sleeping inside, I just don't want to. I only want to sleep outside under the open sky. I don't know how to explain it.
He also refused to give me back my keys, and even has a key to my car! I've been kind of afraid that he might "do something" or ????? . But with praying every day for him, I believe God is going to do something in his life and also protect me.
I also pray to God every day about my disabilities and limitations, and I do believe that He is actually answering my prayers and helping me! He is truly there for me and understands whats been done to me and does not criticize me for simply being victimized like others may,and He has sent several very nice and understanding true believers that have messaged me with support and prayer and are willing to back me up in my struggle, being a special help and blessing to me.
I'm so glad that God does not judge me and discriminate against me for my gender or becuz I was victimized. After all, He made me this gender! What more can I say?
Sorry this just bothers me when people do this. My wife has a master's in psychology however she can not classify someone as a suffering with narcism because she doesn't have the education to do so. You can say people have a mental issue or are mentally unhealthy but 9 times out of 10 people without a educational background in field can not diagnose people. You don't know what his problem is you have no clue. Sorry it just bugs me.
