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Hello all! I am new here..looking for advice..

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by princess34, Apr 16, 2019 at 12:20 AM.

  1. princess34

    princess34 New Member

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    I have always had issues with people comparing me to others and telling me, "You are so quiet," "You don't talk", and so on and so on..Sometimes, this gets to me because I think people may think I am arrogant, and that is not the case because I have been told that I am a nice person. I value few friendships over cliques, and I don't see the problem with that. And most times, I just like to be alone to think and clear my mind. But, why is it that society place a higher regard on people who "talk more" or are extroverts? I would consider myself an introvert and am the type of person who understands that we all are individuals. I don't judge others based on their personalities, and for some reason I keep coming across people who expect me to be like them or be like someone else who is deemed as more "outgoing and talkative." People would think it would be rude for me to tell them, "You are very talkative," so why do people feel the need to tell me that I am quiet? I consider it just as rude because it fosters a self-fulfilling prophecy in a sense. I just get tired of people making me feel as though I am "different." (Also, I am in my early 30's but people always tell me that I look good and young for my age, so I don't know if my youthful appearance plays a role, if that is at all relevant!) It's like if you are "too nice," you do not get respect and if you are "too mean," no one will definitely respect you or want to be around you, so how can I win? I also started a new job and feel as though I get compared to a co-worker who is very talkative. She often interrupts others and intrudes on other conversations, and it is like I am deemed abnormal for thinking this is rude. I just do not get it. It is as if I cannot escape the comparison comments. Some days, I just wish I lived in a world where no one talked! What do you all think about this? I do not want to change to please people, I just want to be understood and be "free" and not feel as though when I meet people they will judge me negatively or not think I am intelligent.
    Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong for feeling this way?
     
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  2. Mary Meg

    Mary Meg Active Member

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    Welcome! I think the world just doesn't understand us introverts... but there's nothing wrong with us. :heart:
     
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  3. myst33

    myst33 Well-Known Member

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    There is nothing wrong with you. There is actually much wrong with them:

    "many words mark the speech of a fool"

    Ecc 5:3

    "many words are meaningless"

    Ecc 5:7

    "The more the words, the less the meaning, and how does that profit anyone?"
    Ecc 6:11

    "When there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his lips is prudent."
    Prov 10:19

    "that we may live peaceful and quiet lives"
    1Tm 2:2

    "You should clothe yourselves with...a quiet spirit"
    1Pe 3:4

    "make it your ambition to lead a quiet life"
    1The 4:11
     
  4. Heavenhome

    Heavenhome Well-Known Member

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    I understand exactly everyrhing you are saying.
    Don't ever think you have to change to suit others. God made you exactly as He wanted you to be.:):heart:

    I agree with you Mary Meg the world doesn't understand us;)

    Who cares what the world thinks? All that matters is what God thinks of us.:purpleheart:
     
  5. ProGoddess

    ProGoddess Daughter of My Lord

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    The world is judgemental to anything and everything. If we keep caring of how others think of us, then life would become very miserable. What we need to know is our standing before God, not men.

    Keep on praying. The Lord is with you. :)
     
  6. sunshine100

    sunshine100 Love God Love people Supporter

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    Hello and welcome
     
  7. sunshine100

    sunshine100 Love God Love people Supporter

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    I agree
    I agree
     
  8. princess34

    princess34 New Member

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    Words cannot express how much I appreciate each and every one of you all's inspiring and uplifting comments! Never have I felt so understood!! I will cherish all words of wisdom expressed and wish God's abundant blessings two-fold in return for you all!!
    ~Love this site:):amen:
     
  9. Heavenhome

    Heavenhome Well-Known Member

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    God bless you dear one.

    :groupray:
    We are one in Jesus.
     
  10. ProGoddess

    ProGoddess Daughter of My Lord

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    We hope you are blessed in every area of your life, @princess34 :angel:
     
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