- Apr 22, 2018
- 20
- 20
- 45
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Engaged
I have question regarding what is normal and abnormal.. Because I really don't know. I have always been a daddy's girl and have always preferred male relationships over female when i was young. Id rather hang out with my grandpa, uncles and dad because women were boring. I was close to my grandfather and uncle, however when i became a teen they saw my admiration as opportunity to sexually abuse me.
Now I'm engaged to a wonderful man who has recently taken a liking to my 13 y.o daughter who is taller then me, looks like me and has boobs. She is developing into a cool young woman that i am very proud of. However he is starting to bond with her and I'm having a hard time with it. For example last month we had a huge fight and I considered breaking up after i walked into the room hearing them laughing and saw him tickling her... Still upsets me. But he explained that he was purposely avoiding touching her inappropriately and she started it by hitting him with pillows. He now knows that touching is off limits but he told me the other night that she is a cool girl, someone he could talk to and keeps talking about her like we were talking about playing video game and he suggested we include her. There was a candy bar in fridge he had bought an and suggested we give it to her.. Though there are more kids in the house. She seems to crush on him and likes the attention just like my 9 y.o daughter who will hang all over him and pick on him if I let her. Is it natural and healthy for a grown man to have close relationship with his young teenage daughter/step daughters or should I be really concerned. Or is it that i have issues to work through? He is a good man conscioencuous not the lying cheating type... But this.. Upsets me. When i talk to him about it he gets offended and just defends himself because he doesn't think he's wrong. What do you think? Please be gentle. Ty
Now I'm engaged to a wonderful man who has recently taken a liking to my 13 y.o daughter who is taller then me, looks like me and has boobs. She is developing into a cool young woman that i am very proud of. However he is starting to bond with her and I'm having a hard time with it. For example last month we had a huge fight and I considered breaking up after i walked into the room hearing them laughing and saw him tickling her... Still upsets me. But he explained that he was purposely avoiding touching her inappropriately and she started it by hitting him with pillows. He now knows that touching is off limits but he told me the other night that she is a cool girl, someone he could talk to and keeps talking about her like we were talking about playing video game and he suggested we include her. There was a candy bar in fridge he had bought an and suggested we give it to her.. Though there are more kids in the house. She seems to crush on him and likes the attention just like my 9 y.o daughter who will hang all over him and pick on him if I let her. Is it natural and healthy for a grown man to have close relationship with his young teenage daughter/step daughters or should I be really concerned. Or is it that i have issues to work through? He is a good man conscioencuous not the lying cheating type... But this.. Upsets me. When i talk to him about it he gets offended and just defends himself because he doesn't think he's wrong. What do you think? Please be gentle. Ty