My husband and I have been married less than a year. We dated over 2 years before marrying. Things seemed relatively normal until Covid lockdown. Then he changed, in ways I can best describe as an increase in anger, coldness, frustration and impatience. His words are cutting and harsh. He has increasingly rejected intimacy, peace, companionship and tenderness. My 22 year old lives with us for now, and despite my husband knowing my daily battle with the child's depression, laziness and refusal to strike out in life, my husband has become very hostile about the situation and delivered me some unexpected ultimatums about kicking the child out with no real job or place to go. We plan to move within the year, so I have told my child to find alternate plans when that happens. But, my husband wants a decade old problem solved now. His own adult child angers him greatly, because my husband feels his is ungrateful, foolish and doesnt listen to wise advice. Actually, based on his words, my husband seems to hate or at least criticize everyone right now except the dog. Aside from this, my husband is generous with his time and money, does not have addictions or get in any trouble. He tends to hoard things though. He left his job soon after I met him, with dreams of becomng something different, but between Covid, his hoarding possessions, and the financial and logistical constraints of moving all our stuff, we have achieved little on the path to building a business or new life together. I admit, it's frustrating, but I love my husband and seek his affection, approval and companionship daily. Sometimes I have nothing left to do but cry and implore him to have compassion. I advise him to make plans and steps we can follow to our goal, but he just gets angry and things I am trying to subvert his authority. He grows angrier and colder each day, and uses my child as the scapegoat. I expect he has some level of PTSD, but I doubt he will go for help. Our pastor retired in December, and Covid shutdown has prevented us from church except on TV. We need to be in a good church again soon. In the meantime, my counselor says I need to stand up to his angry outbursts, criticisms and unreasonable demands, but it only makes him angrier. I want to ask what I am doing wrong in this situation, but I feel my only fault is to want intimacy with my husband and companionship like we had a short time ago - amid the stress. I don't know how to retrieve that, and don't want to send my child onto the streets with no job, no drivers license, only a small income from online business ansd no life skills.