My parents are divorced. My mom went through some traumatic things right around the time I was born. Her husband left her, her mother died, and I was born all within a couple of months of each other. Her mother's passing and my birth within just two weeks.
She was mostly depressed when I was growing up. She didn't cook much or clean or take us to the park. We spent a lot of time by ourselves and so there are a lot of habits that I never formed as a child or as a young woman.
I never really learned how to take care of myself or my space. Forcing myself to form the habit of brushing my teeth twice a day has been a struggle for most of the years of my adult life. I never learned any secrets for cleaning red wine out of the rug or how to make the perfect omelette. I wasn't taught how to care for a husband. We didn't really have company over very often, maybe a few times a year, so I also never learned how to entertain or how to cook for a large amount of people.
I'd never want to discount my mother, though. She taught me many, many other things that unfortunately can only come out of struggle and adversity. I'm just saying, basically, that I was never taught how to be a housewife. And that's something I really want to be.
I want to worship and write and create and travel, of course. But what I really want is to be the perfect little wifey, as I'm sure there are other women who can relate.
In the 5 years that I have lived without my mom, I have slowly started to form good habits of housekeeping and housewifery. I keep my house clean, picking up here and there as I go. I cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner every single day for my boyfriend and I always serve him first. I do all of the laundry. I keep my boyfriend's things in order so that they are easy for him to find.
So I'm getting better. But it has led me to ask - are women still being trained as housewives? Did your mom insist on you being there while she made the homemade bread? Did your grandmother show you how to sew a hole in a lace table cloth? Did you and your sisters have to help with the laundry while your brothers played? Please let me know what it was like growing up with your mother and the things that she taught you. I can use all the advice I can get! Thank you!
She was mostly depressed when I was growing up. She didn't cook much or clean or take us to the park. We spent a lot of time by ourselves and so there are a lot of habits that I never formed as a child or as a young woman.
I never really learned how to take care of myself or my space. Forcing myself to form the habit of brushing my teeth twice a day has been a struggle for most of the years of my adult life. I never learned any secrets for cleaning red wine out of the rug or how to make the perfect omelette. I wasn't taught how to care for a husband. We didn't really have company over very often, maybe a few times a year, so I also never learned how to entertain or how to cook for a large amount of people.
I'd never want to discount my mother, though. She taught me many, many other things that unfortunately can only come out of struggle and adversity. I'm just saying, basically, that I was never taught how to be a housewife. And that's something I really want to be.
I want to worship and write and create and travel, of course. But what I really want is to be the perfect little wifey, as I'm sure there are other women who can relate.
In the 5 years that I have lived without my mom, I have slowly started to form good habits of housekeeping and housewifery. I keep my house clean, picking up here and there as I go. I cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner every single day for my boyfriend and I always serve him first. I do all of the laundry. I keep my boyfriend's things in order so that they are easy for him to find.
So I'm getting better. But it has led me to ask - are women still being trained as housewives? Did your mom insist on you being there while she made the homemade bread? Did your grandmother show you how to sew a hole in a lace table cloth? Did you and your sisters have to help with the laundry while your brothers played? Please let me know what it was like growing up with your mother and the things that she taught you. I can use all the advice I can get! Thank you!
