- Jul 6, 2017
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- Married
Hi, everyone. I need help. I got married 1 year ago to a single mother of four. Only the youngest two, both girls, live with us, thank God, because the older two hate my guts, and thier mother's
The father is... I don't like him at all.
The mother and I have a great deal of baggage, both. For the first year together, we argued alot. The girls would get horrified (having never seen a man get angry) (thier bio dad is an emotionless sissy who worships the ground his current girlfriend of 10 years, walks on).
We began seeing a counceler, and things got better, but now, the guy wants to try to win complete custody of the girls. (after my wife raised them all by herself for the last 10 years)
The girls, 12 and 14, have begun being extremely disrespectful to me and thier mother. The worst part is, they treat the step-mom better than thier real mom. They seem to live in this little fantasy world where she is the queen and thier dad is the prince, and I'm not supposed to say anything about it.
I also feel like they are being used to spy on us, based on what his lawyer has been asking. We can't even talk to the kids themselves about this, as they won't talk about their dad or 'nanny' (not calling her stepmom, because she isn't married to their dad). Their mother, my wife, says they talk to HER about them, so maybe it's just me. Whenever I see her ask them about those two, the girls just clam up.
They grow far more disrepectiveful every time they are with him, and it is even worse if their older siblings are there.
Naturely, much of a stepchild's attitude towards their steppartent comes from the attitude they see their real parents showing them. They see their father falling at their nanny's feet, so they do; they see their mother constantly being direspectful and rebelious to me, so they are.
I want to love them, I really do, but it get extremely frustrating when the whole family seems completely incapable of expressing their feelings in any fashion, to the point of getting angry if anyone threatens their
Sometimes, I wish I could join them all in their little fantasy world, where my wife and I have 3 or 4 beautiful children who have never been subjected to divorce, before. I am almost to the point of writing out all the details to this little fantasy world, including names and memories.
The father is... I don't like him at all.
The mother and I have a great deal of baggage, both. For the first year together, we argued alot. The girls would get horrified (having never seen a man get angry) (thier bio dad is an emotionless sissy who worships the ground his current girlfriend of 10 years, walks on).
We began seeing a counceler, and things got better, but now, the guy wants to try to win complete custody of the girls. (after my wife raised them all by herself for the last 10 years)
The girls, 12 and 14, have begun being extremely disrespectful to me and thier mother. The worst part is, they treat the step-mom better than thier real mom. They seem to live in this little fantasy world where she is the queen and thier dad is the prince, and I'm not supposed to say anything about it.
I also feel like they are being used to spy on us, based on what his lawyer has been asking. We can't even talk to the kids themselves about this, as they won't talk about their dad or 'nanny' (not calling her stepmom, because she isn't married to their dad). Their mother, my wife, says they talk to HER about them, so maybe it's just me. Whenever I see her ask them about those two, the girls just clam up.
They grow far more disrepectiveful every time they are with him, and it is even worse if their older siblings are there.
Naturely, much of a stepchild's attitude towards their steppartent comes from the attitude they see their real parents showing them. They see their father falling at their nanny's feet, so they do; they see their mother constantly being direspectful and rebelious to me, so they are.
I want to love them, I really do, but it get extremely frustrating when the whole family seems completely incapable of expressing their feelings in any fashion, to the point of getting angry if anyone threatens their
Sometimes, I wish I could join them all in their little fantasy world, where my wife and I have 3 or 4 beautiful children who have never been subjected to divorce, before. I am almost to the point of writing out all the details to this little fantasy world, including names and memories.