Ok - 2 questions - How do I pray, and discernment
Both are a bit more than someone might think, especially the discernment
First - How do I pray?
Mostly my prayers are just conversations with Him and me. So it is just like talking to a friend, but of course your friend is God.
Is 1:18 “Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the LORD,
“Though your sins are as scarlet,
They will be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They will be like wool.
It is like what Isaiah wrote about above. I have thing I want to discuss with Him and He has responses to them.
Gen 5:24 Enoch walked with God; and he was not, for God took him.
It is like that. So often He asks me to walk with Him and off we go. While on the walk I bring up things important to me, and He responds and brings up things important to Him. Honestly, this is really how you get to know Him, and most (99%) of my time in prayer with Him is just conversations back and forth
So then there are other prayer times, and they are for different reasons.
Intercession is an important one. Now I do intercede for people during my walk with Him, but that is simply in the form of a conversation. There are times, when either as a group, or because He has had me in 'intercession' that I focus just on asking for things. Then it is mostly from the Father, in His name. Of course if it is in His name, then I should ask Him what He wants prayed for, and I do and listen, then petition the Father.
On that same line, but slightly different is praying for others in ministry. He had me work five years in a healing ministry, where people came in for prayer. That is intercession and ministry combined, but the principle of asking Jesus Christ and praying in His name to the Father as He instructs is important.
Then there is praying in tongues. There are different reason for praying in tongues, but perhaps the main reason is that we just don't need to know about all that needs to be prayed for. There are other reasons, but for now let me just explain this: If someone has private problems do I need to know about them? Of course not. So I can just turn my voice over to the Holy Spirit and let Him do the praying. Again, there are many other reasons for tongues, but this is perhaps the main reason.
(Oh, I almost forgot something important. That is that our relationship with Him is something built up, just like any relationship. So it is important to understand that He is God and you are not, thus the bending of knees was very important to me at first. Yet as you get to know Him, your relationship changes to more of a servant, friend, son, and bride! Again this building of the relationship takes some time. Remember that the angel Gabriel said that he stood in the presence of God. It doesn't start that way, but it will get that way. He will tell you someday that it is not needed, of course even then you will be more than willing to throw any crown you got down and bow down to Him, after all He is still God and He is amazing)
Now on to discernment of spirits.
I have been with the Lord twenty years and still feel I have much to learn with this, though He is taught me a ton of information about this. So to be a bit brief I will cover a few main things:
The first thing to clearly understand is that God is God!!! That means He is omni-present, omni-potent, preeminent, omniscient, and more. Which is to say He is running His creation! Even when the devil is actively rebellious and against Him, He is still in charge!
Job 1:12 Then the LORD said to Satan, “Behold, all that he has is in your power, only do not put forth your hand on him.” So Satan departed from the presence of the LORD.
Look close at the above verse. For Satan to get at Job he had to come and ask the Lord for permission. Satan got the permission but with certain limitations, and Satan was unable to go outside the permission he got from God!
So if Satan gets at you, then he could only do it if the Lord let Him! If that is the case, the Lord must have a purpose. That purpose, like in Job's case, is to get your attention on Him!
Second - It is written that all those who seek find, and to seek first the Kingdom of God. The Kingdom would first include the King (Jesus Christ) but also there are more (angels) with you than against you. You need to understand that. So the devil does exist and we do battle with the dark forces of this world, but there are more with our King and Lord than in the dark forces! So seek first the Kingdom of God.
Third - We have specific tests in the Bible we are supposed to use
1 Jn 4:1-3 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God; and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God; this is the
spirit of the antichrist
Forth - practice!! If you want to get good at playing the piano you practice. If you want to get good at discerning what is from God and what is not practice using your spiritual senses. Mainly I am talking about hearing with your spiritual ears, but you have five physical senses so figure you have five spiritual senses also and practice using them, with some discretion and consideration and you will get better at discernment.
Heb 5:14 But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil.
And fifth - which perhaps need to be first and is connected to seek first the Kingdom. That is, Jesus Christ is called the Teacher, and Wonderful Counselor. So talk to Him and ask Him questions about what is going on!!
2 Cor 10:5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and
we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,
Taking all thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ means that we are taking all our thoughts to Him and asking Him what we need to do about them. We then listen to Him and do it, and in that way you get wonderful counsel and also get taught about discernment.
I could go on, but those are the basics and if He is the Teacher, perhaps you should be asking Him more about this than leaning on what I have learned. He has a plan for each of us and it includes what needs to be taught when and how.