- Nov 25, 2018
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Hi all,
So I am one of those chaps that gets addicted to anything and everything pleasurable. Sex, inappropriate content, gambling, alcohol, cocaine, coffee, nicotine. You name it.
The biggest threat to my wellness is alcohol/cocaine. I've been a compulsive binge drinker since age 16. I am 29 now. I've had periods of sobriety intermittently lasting 6-12 months a piece.
This last period of sobriety was absolutely wonderful. For a good 8 months, I found God and my purpose, stabilized my mental health, and landed a job in the public service field that I am extremely passionate about. I stayed sober through a program called SMART recovery (AA is not effective for me) and church attendance. I enjoyed the best recovery I've ever had.
I slipped and drank about a week after the 8 month mark. For a month prior to my slip, I had stopped my meetings and church. It wasn't too crazy, but the recovery has been troublesome. My pattern is, in the weeks following a lapse, a fog sets in. I experience INTENSE cravings. I know if I indulge again, the pattern will reset, and I'll do it all over. There will be no end. I'll drink myself into a hole and the immense pain will eventually drive me to sobriety. During this craving period, recall of my drinking is euphoric. It is difficult to remember the immense trauma and loss drinking has caused me over the years. The focus is on how good I'll feel while drinking, and I'll figure the rest out later, kind of thing. I'll deal with the hangover/depression/guilt/cravings later. Right now I'll enjoy my high. It is a psychologically entrenched behavior pattern, dug in deep, and it takes over sometimes.
Given my low functionality when drinking, it is doubtful that I'll be able to keep my job. Even if I manage to, I will not be 100% for my clients who depend on me. I'll be living a double-life, providing treatment during the week and getting drunk/high on the weekends. And that's only if I manage to keep it to the weekends, which is also doubtful.
I don't know what I'm looking for. I guess it helped to type all that out. Maybe suggestions would be cool.
So I am one of those chaps that gets addicted to anything and everything pleasurable. Sex, inappropriate content, gambling, alcohol, cocaine, coffee, nicotine. You name it.
The biggest threat to my wellness is alcohol/cocaine. I've been a compulsive binge drinker since age 16. I am 29 now. I've had periods of sobriety intermittently lasting 6-12 months a piece.
This last period of sobriety was absolutely wonderful. For a good 8 months, I found God and my purpose, stabilized my mental health, and landed a job in the public service field that I am extremely passionate about. I stayed sober through a program called SMART recovery (AA is not effective for me) and church attendance. I enjoyed the best recovery I've ever had.
I slipped and drank about a week after the 8 month mark. For a month prior to my slip, I had stopped my meetings and church. It wasn't too crazy, but the recovery has been troublesome. My pattern is, in the weeks following a lapse, a fog sets in. I experience INTENSE cravings. I know if I indulge again, the pattern will reset, and I'll do it all over. There will be no end. I'll drink myself into a hole and the immense pain will eventually drive me to sobriety. During this craving period, recall of my drinking is euphoric. It is difficult to remember the immense trauma and loss drinking has caused me over the years. The focus is on how good I'll feel while drinking, and I'll figure the rest out later, kind of thing. I'll deal with the hangover/depression/guilt/cravings later. Right now I'll enjoy my high. It is a psychologically entrenched behavior pattern, dug in deep, and it takes over sometimes.
Given my low functionality when drinking, it is doubtful that I'll be able to keep my job. Even if I manage to, I will not be 100% for my clients who depend on me. I'll be living a double-life, providing treatment during the week and getting drunk/high on the weekends. And that's only if I manage to keep it to the weekends, which is also doubtful.
I don't know what I'm looking for. I guess it helped to type all that out. Maybe suggestions would be cool.