Recently(February '18) my Father-in-law passed away in a terrible unexpected way. Just 3 months prior to this, his mother (our grandmother) passed away at age - 91. She lived with my husband's parents since his birth.
My mother-in-law is a terrible controlling and manipulative person. When we were just going out, she would chase me away, and say the meanest things. Sometimes I think that I would have been better off not marrying this man. But I truly love him, and believe that we were meant to be. His father would control his mom, and tell her to stop meddling, and stop being mean.
Since his Father passed away, his mom is so mean to me, eventhough I handle all the administrative stuff, I organised the funeral, I jump whenever she snaps her fingers, and still its not good enough - for her or my husband. She has two other sons, whom one is married with 3 children. This daugther-in-law can do nothing wrong. She doesn't have one good thing to say about me. All of this have caused such resentment in my heart towards her. I am angry whenever MIL phones, or visits or asks us to do something. And I don't know how to cope with this resentment or how not to feel this way.
My husband on the other hand, gets up in the morning, goes to work, comes home, sits in front of the tv, or on his cellphone, ignores all my attempts at making conversation, and goes to sleep. We don't talk, we don't do anything together. It is asif I don't exist. When we do go somewhere he is so mean to the other people there, or he sits in a corner like a angry teenager. I constantly have to make exuses for him everywhere. Whenever one of his brothers phones or come to visit, he will talk hours with them, but he doesn't have ten words to say to me.
And his mom.... He has told me that I'm no longer the most important in his life, his mother now is. She can ask him the most ridiculous things, and he would leave everything and go do it for her (She lives an hour away from us). She is only 52, so its not asif she can't do anything for her self.
When my FIL just passed away, he wanted to leave everything and move in with her. I didn't. So he told me then we would divorce, so he could move in with her. We have never discussed this again.
He also refuses to read Bible or pray. He says he is angry at God. But does nothing to fix it.
I'm at my wits end... I don't know which way anymore..
My mother-in-law is a terrible controlling and manipulative person. When we were just going out, she would chase me away, and say the meanest things. Sometimes I think that I would have been better off not marrying this man. But I truly love him, and believe that we were meant to be. His father would control his mom, and tell her to stop meddling, and stop being mean.
Since his Father passed away, his mom is so mean to me, eventhough I handle all the administrative stuff, I organised the funeral, I jump whenever she snaps her fingers, and still its not good enough - for her or my husband. She has two other sons, whom one is married with 3 children. This daugther-in-law can do nothing wrong. She doesn't have one good thing to say about me. All of this have caused such resentment in my heart towards her. I am angry whenever MIL phones, or visits or asks us to do something. And I don't know how to cope with this resentment or how not to feel this way.
My husband on the other hand, gets up in the morning, goes to work, comes home, sits in front of the tv, or on his cellphone, ignores all my attempts at making conversation, and goes to sleep. We don't talk, we don't do anything together. It is asif I don't exist. When we do go somewhere he is so mean to the other people there, or he sits in a corner like a angry teenager. I constantly have to make exuses for him everywhere. Whenever one of his brothers phones or come to visit, he will talk hours with them, but he doesn't have ten words to say to me.
And his mom.... He has told me that I'm no longer the most important in his life, his mother now is. She can ask him the most ridiculous things, and he would leave everything and go do it for her (She lives an hour away from us). She is only 52, so its not asif she can't do anything for her self.
When my FIL just passed away, he wanted to leave everything and move in with her. I didn't. So he told me then we would divorce, so he could move in with her. We have never discussed this again.
He also refuses to read Bible or pray. He says he is angry at God. But does nothing to fix it.
I'm at my wits end... I don't know which way anymore..
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