- Nov 10, 2005
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I'm not entirely sure exactly how this started, but my grandfather (who is 77 years old) was forced into a nursing home by the county due to his dementia and early signs of Alzheimer's Disease. They live in Minnesota. And now today my grandmother (who is 73 years old) is being taken away too. I suppose this started about a year ago when my aunt was concerned for my grandmother's mental health...she was constantly crying and sobbing...she had multiple visits to the ER and they could never figure out why she was in pain. So they hooked her up to some nurses that were some how linked to the state of Minnesota. Over the past year, the nurses have helped my grandparents take their pills and montiored how well they can care for themselves. I think that this is very reasonable...I know they can't care for themselves and needed assistance. My grandmother over-medicates herself (whether by accident or on purpose I don't know), forgets to eat, and goes without showers because she simply can't remember. Like I said before, my grandfather's mental state isn't entact enough to care for her either. My grandmother has told lie after lie her whole life, we've never known if what she's saying is the truth or not...we didn't find out my grandfather was in the hospital until he was already leaving! My cousin called us up and told us. She's always been this way, and I've accepted it, but she's gotten to the point now where she lies about us to other people. Says we don't call her, ignore her, and that we only want her $$$. I cried when I heard that, how heartbreaking to think she would tell my extended family that. They know that she tends to bend the truth, they know we're not like that, but it breaks me to think that she possibly thinks we would actually treat her that way.
Anyway, all that is beside the point! Now, due to my grandmother's lack of truthful words, the county is forcing her into the same nursing home my grandfather is in. I've offered several times (probably at least 10) to fly up there, pack their things, and do what ever it is that is necessary to bring them down here. I want to take care of them. I figured it was a pretty good offer...saying that I would take time out of my life with my family, my school, and my work to take care of them every day...but I guess not.
According to several family members I've spoken to, she doesn't trust me (her grand-daughter) or my mom even. Now the state is going to take away all of our family heirlooms, pictures, and everything they've ever owned. It's simply heart-breaking. Plane tickets are so expensive and I can't fly up there at this very moment unless it's going to be a productive trip and consist of moving them down here.
I just need to ask for some prayers. I don't know what will happen to them, but I can't move up there. I have a family myself, a job, and a life. I would love for them to be a part of it, but they seem to think my mother or I should drop our lives and move up there...
I wish I could do that, but I can't. I need to consider my families needs too.
Please pray for my grandfather's mental state and that he will feel at peace and comfortable. I truly hope and pray that the staff there are treating him just the way my mom and I would. Also, please pray for my grandmother. She's going to be such a mess today when they try to force her out of her home. Her kitties are still there and she'll have such a tough time emotionally with this move. I know the Lord never gives us anything we can't handle, I just have to keep reminding myself that.
Thank you in advance for your prayers, I deeply and truly appreciate it, and listening to me rant and rave about our emotional struggles. :o
God bless!
Ashley Lynne
Anyway, all that is beside the point! Now, due to my grandmother's lack of truthful words, the county is forcing her into the same nursing home my grandfather is in. I've offered several times (probably at least 10) to fly up there, pack their things, and do what ever it is that is necessary to bring them down here. I want to take care of them. I figured it was a pretty good offer...saying that I would take time out of my life with my family, my school, and my work to take care of them every day...but I guess not.
According to several family members I've spoken to, she doesn't trust me (her grand-daughter) or my mom even. Now the state is going to take away all of our family heirlooms, pictures, and everything they've ever owned. It's simply heart-breaking. Plane tickets are so expensive and I can't fly up there at this very moment unless it's going to be a productive trip and consist of moving them down here.I just need to ask for some prayers. I don't know what will happen to them, but I can't move up there. I have a family myself, a job, and a life. I would love for them to be a part of it, but they seem to think my mother or I should drop our lives and move up there...
I wish I could do that, but I can't. I need to consider my families needs too. Please pray for my grandfather's mental state and that he will feel at peace and comfortable. I truly hope and pray that the staff there are treating him just the way my mom and I would. Also, please pray for my grandmother. She's going to be such a mess today when they try to force her out of her home. Her kitties are still there and she'll have such a tough time emotionally with this move. I know the Lord never gives us anything we can't handle, I just have to keep reminding myself that.Thank you in advance for your prayers, I deeply and truly appreciate it, and listening to me rant and rave about our emotional struggles. :o
God bless!
Ashley Lynne
