Good guys..

[hisbloodformysins]

So since I seperated from my husband of 11 years almost 1 year ago I made some mistakes and met some guys from online dating sites who were not good guys. Well I've repented of those mistakes but still one of these guys will rise up and send me a text and try to get together with me and fortunately the lord has delivered me from getting entangled with those people again.

The last few months i've been really just going to God, seeking him. I've asked for forgiveness about my failed marriage and have asked my husband's forgiveness though I don't think he has really forigiven me and am forgiving myself so that I can have the freedom to move on.

Longer story short I am still seeking and trusting the Lord to bring me the right person for me when the time is right. And this morning I believe the holy spirit spoke to me and told me that there are good guys who won't leave me and will be good to me. Because I've experienced A LOT of hurt and abandonment this past year, from one person who I got seriously involved with inparticular. And in my experience I've lost faith in relationships.

But today my prayer is "Lord, please bring those good guys". I would like to for once experience normal ordinary good guys who won't leave and abandon you just because it suits them. I've even had good chiristian guy friends who initially were there but poof.. suddenly they are not there.. because it didn't suit them.

Where have the good guys gone?? Are you out there?

 

[Allen1901]

We were here all along, you simply made other choices.

Best of luck!

 

[hisbloodformysins]

 

[Deacon]

We were here all along, you simply made other choices.

Best of luck!

Word

 

[lone soldier]

There are plenty of good guys out there. You just have to believe it. In the meantime, focus on being a good girl and you'll be a good match for when your knight comes in!

 

[Inkachu]

You don't need a man to be a complete person, or to survive, or to be happy. The Lord is your portion and your provider. After a divorce, jumping into relationships is the worst thing to do. You need time to heal and become YOU again, and that takes months at the VERY least; usually it's more like a few years. Use this time to heal, grow, and become strong again.

JMHO.

 

[Deacon]

You don't need a man to be a complete person, or to survive, or to be happy. The Lord is your portion and your provider. After a divorce, jumping into relationships is the worst thing to do. You need time to heal and become YOU again, and that takes months at the VERY least; usually it's more like a few years. Use this time to heal, grow, and become strong again.

JMHO.

Word again!

 

[Tink]

So since I seperated from my husband of 11 years almost 1 year ago I made some mistakes and met some guys from online dating sites who were not good guys. Well I've repented of those mistakes but still one of these guys will rise up and send me a text and try to get together with me and fortunately the lord has delivered me from getting entangled with those people again.

The last few months i've been really just going to God, seeking him. I've asked for forgiveness about my failed marriage and have asked my husband's forgiveness though I don't think he has really forigiven me and am forgiving myself so that I can have the freedom to move on.

Longer story short I am still seeking and trusting the Lord to bring me the right person for me when the time is right. And this morning I believe the holy spirit spoke to me and told me that there are good guys who won't leave me and will be good to me. Because I've experienced A LOT of hurt and abandonment this past year, from one person who I got seriously involved with inparticular. And in my experience I've lost faith in relationships.

But today my prayer is "Lord, please bring those good guys". I would like to for once experience normal ordinary good guys who won't leave and abandon you just because it suits them. I've even had good chiristian guy friends who initially were there but poof.. suddenly they are not there.. because it didn't suit them.

Where have the good guys gone?? Are you out there?

If you're only separated, I would advise against having a relationship right now. With any guy; good or bad.

 

[Thunder Peel]

They've been told they finish last so I think they're drying up. No one wants to play for a losing team.

 

[MehGuy]

So since I seperated from my husband of 11 years almost 1 year ago I made some mistakes and met some guys from online dating sites who were not good guys. Well I've repented of those mistakes but still one of these guys will rise up and send me a text and try to get together with me and fortunately the lord has delivered me from getting entangled with those people again.

The last few months i've been really just going to God, seeking him. I've asked for forgiveness about my failed marriage and have asked my husband's forgiveness though I don't think he has really forigiven me and am forgiving myself so that I can have the freedom to move on.

Longer story short I am still seeking and trusting the Lord to bring me the right person for me when the time is right. And this morning I believe the holy spirit spoke to me and told me that there are good guys who won't leave me and will be good to me. Because I've experienced A LOT of hurt and abandonment this past year, from one person who I got seriously involved with inparticular. And in my experience I've lost faith in relationships.

But today my prayer is "Lord, please bring those good guys". I would like to for once experience normal ordinary good guys who won't leave and abandon you just because it suits them. I've even had good chiristian guy friends who initially were there but poof.. suddenly they are not there.. because it didn't suit them.

Where have the good guys gone?? Are you out there?

Are you sure you will be content with someone who is always striving to treat you nicely? I know I wouldn't want a girl like that. Not saying you should see those mean guys, however tempting it may be, but maybe finding a balance would be right for you. Or else you could be looking for a long time and never really be happy with anything. Being more open to your pure feelings and discarding and being skeptical about societal feelings on the subjected matter could help you too.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

They've been told they finish last so I think they're drying up. No one wants to play for a losing team.

Lol thanks for the laugh

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Reality is that I need companionship even if its just friendship and I need to get more involved with the good guys to help get rid of the bad (bad guys means guys who only want to talk to me because they want smething like sex... and who r mainly self centered people )

 

[hisbloodformysins]

If you're only separated, I would advise against having a relationship right now. With any guy; good or bad.

I am going through a divorce but we are both fighting for full physical custody so I don't know how long it'll take before I am actually divorced

 

[Nom De Guerre]

lol, hey now... not all self-centered guys are bad. Some might just have other goals than trying to settle down and find somebody that wants kids or some junk like that!

 

[Keri]

You don't need a man to be a complete person, or to survive, or to be happy. The Lord is your portion and your provider. After a divorce, jumping into relationships is the worst thing to do. You need time to heal and become YOU again, and that takes months at the VERY least; usually it's more like a few years. Use this time to heal, grow, and become strong again.

JMHO.

I fully agree with what Vicky said. I left my husband a year ago. I set out to have a time alone (with no relationships) where I could discover myself. I originally set it for a year, then two years, and now that it has been a year, I have accomplished everything I set out. You just need to focus on yourself, and letting your heart heal and allowing the Lord to work in you.

If you're only separated, I would advise against having a relationship right now. With any guy; good or bad.

Regardless of the techincality of being divorced/separated, you still need time to heal. Seek companionship with other women. I met two girl friends this year and it's been wonderful. It's only been the last month or so that I'm finally allowing myself to hang out with guys more.

Give yourself time.

 

[SneakerPimp53]

You're not even divorced yet, and in the middle of a custody battle. You're just rebounding, which is pretty self centered. If you want a friend why can't you just be friends with another woman? The thing is if you want someone to be your rebound they've got every right to expect something in return for it. Anyone looking for something more than a quid pro quo is obviously going to steer miles in the other direction. For anyone that finds the idea of being a rebound appealing it's just going to be about getting something, usually sex, while the getting is good. Then when it's no longer fun, yeah, they're out. It's quid pro quo after all.

 

[Im_A]

You're not even divorced yet, and in the middle of a custody battle. You're just rebounding, which is pretty self centered. If you want a friend why can't you just be friends with another woman? The thing is if you want someone to be your rebound they've got every right to expect something in return for it. Anyone looking for something more than a quid pro quo is obviously going to steer miles in the other direction. For anyone that finds the idea of being a rebound appealing it's just going to be about getting something, usually sex, while the getting is good. Then when it's no longer fun, yeah, they're out. It's quid pro quo after all.

I agree with this.

You can't expect to find too much good if you are setting up the new man to accept dating a married woman fighting for custody of her children.

 

[Blank123]

If you're only separated, I would advise against having a relationship right now. With any guy; good or bad.

what she said.

When the time is right, if there is no reconciliation in your own marriage and you both decide to divorce, I'm sure you'll find that there are lots of really great guys out there

 

[Thunder Peel]

Lol thanks for the laugh

What I said was meant to be serious. If a guy is told he's "nice" or "a good guy" that's usually interpreted as either being a doormat or simply a friend who's fun to hang around but isn't considered dating material. I know I would certainly feel bad if a woman said I was a good guy because that's usually codeword for "You're easy to take advantage of". I've been in that situation and it hurts...a lot.

 

[mina]

Usually what I find is that when you try really hard to find a "good" guy and the right person; they don't seem to be around. Sometime you have to try to be "the right person" and someone who is good to everyone and they end up finding you. Develop the qualities yourself that you want in a partner but simply for yourself and to honor the Lord..... goodness attracts goodness. Sometimes you have to wait a while and it's worth the wait.
Also, I think you need to be totally "okay" stable, etc.... and "complete" on your own (emotionally, legally, spiritually, etc) ; just to know who you are, and what you truly want in life before getting involved with another person. I don't think anyone should be perfect; b/c there is no such thing, but I do think you have to be someone that is a "someone wonderful" for someone you want to be wonderful to you. I think i'm explaining that badly; It sort of sounds like i'm saying that people are single because they haven't obtained that yet (which I don't believe for a second); but sometimes it's not you at all and sometimes you just have to wait b/c good things often aren't instant; but to be someone that is a great additon to someone else's life and for that to be mutual is such a healthy and fulfilling thing.