Going through first serious heartbreak

[ClaraLunaI5417]

Hello, My name is clara, im seventeen years old.
About two months ago my boyfriend of a year broke up with me, he is the first person I have ever been in love with and I'm finding it very hard to move on... I know I have to trust God with this, but everytime I try to I snatch it back. I just feel so incredibly hurt, we were both young when we met, at our age we still dont know who we are. I do love him with all my heart, I just wanted some encouragement from anyone who has gone through serious heartbreak and has come out better off.. Its easy for christians to pray that god does the right thing in their lives but that are only happy when it goes the way they want it to. I miss my ex very much, i know one day i will grow up and find someone else. I know im young. but i dont want to be patronized, because love is strong no matter how young you are.
As isaiah 54:17 says "no weapon that forms against me will prosper"
thankyou if you have read this, sorry if my paragraphing has been terrible, im super tired haha.
god bless xx

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

Welcome
I am sorry for your pain and remember the feeling.... having been there myself (MANY moons ago )
Yes, this will pass...and if it is meant to be, then you will reunite*; if not, then your life partner is waiting in the wings for the right moment in your life.
*I actually broke off my engagement with my present husband ; we got back together 3 months later (after we each dated a few 'jerks' ) and have now been married 39 years
Praying for your heart to heal, and for the Lord to bless you with abundant love and joy in the days to come

 

[SplendidTree]

Hey there precious sister. Breakups are hard and hurt but God and time does heal. You may always care about him but you will move on and whatever God's plan is, you will be much stronger.

I have been there before. I actually ended a relationship after I want to say 6 and a half years maybe a little bit more. It was tough because even though it was bad, it was still a long time with the person. I have been through a couple of other breakups as well. Each one was pretty difficult but I am better because of it. Not only did I move forward and lean more on the Lord, but now the Lord has blessed me with a wonderful man.

It will get better. Trust in God, serve Him and He will show you the way. Maybe fellowship and enjoy some nice girl time!

Praying for you now!

 

[ClaraLunaI5417]

Thankyou both, your words are very uplifting! x

 

[ThyLovingkindness]

Hi, I too have dealt with heartbreak. And there's no way that I would patronize you. I remember falling head-over-heels in love with a young man when I was 15, he was 4 years' older than me. And he was quite the flirt, which translates as, the feelings weren't reciprocated. To this day I wonder how he is... he became a college professor somewhere in So. CA, and is likely retired... who knows. As time went on, I had different relationships; then met the most wonderful, stable man who is my late-husband (I'm a widow). Yet ironically, do we ever really forget our first love? I didn't. But I did move on, and am sure you will too, in time.

You know, I said something about forgetting our first love in the preceding paragraph. Which reminds me of Jesus, and the following,

"Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love." Revelation 2:4

In other words, when others fail us, or pass away, Jesus is right there, He's salve to the wound. Blessings!

 

[nicedream]

sweetheart, i've been where you are. the hardest part of it was i mourned for the relationship for a long time after people thought i should be over it. i pray that you have a quicker recovery and "bounce back." it took me 10 years to get over that first heartbreak. i dated other people, but was still sad over that breakup. finally, i learned more about myself to realize that i could still be happy even without this person in my life.

sometimes it takes work to get over a breakup...it takes effort to change your feelings and thoughts. no one ever told me that i was supposed to actively work to get rif of those thoughts...but that's exactly what i needed to do. i thought that holding onto the thought of him might bring him back, but it just made me unhappy.

so, my advice is, grieve for a while. then, get rid of those love letters, throw away the old pictures, and actively challenge those thoughts of getting back with him. then, do things to make your life as happy as possible, and you will find that happiness will attract new friends and new love.

i hope you bounce back more quickly than i did. but if you don't, just know that, when you are ready, God has a wonderful man to be your husband, and he will feel the same way about you as you feel about him. you don't want to just "catch" a man and hold onto him...you won't be happy that way. it's so much better if he is also holding onto you and loving you just as much as you love him. praying for you!!

 

[ClaraLunaI5417]

Thankyou so so much, your words have really impacted me. Its so encouraging to know that even though at times it may feel like everything is falling apart, other people can be so uplifting and kind. I signed up to this because I felt helpless, and I do feel just so empowered by all of your words and by the holy spirit. Thankyou again, you're all in my prayers! X

 

[.Iona.]

I'll say a prayer

 

[Stephanie7]

Father God, thank You for healing the broken hearted. You understand the pain and devastation that this one is going through. Heal her broken heart and strengthen her and grant her peace that she may get through this difficult time, In Jesus Name, Amen

I went through this as well. It hurt so badly, I know, I understand, but let me encourage you. God took my tears and broken heart and opened doors in the future for me to meet the man He had planned for me. May God bless You with peace, and comfort you and let you know that He has something good planned for you as well. You will be loved again. Have faith and believe God will make it happen.

 

[joseph10]

Father God you are the God of the broken and hurting people of this world and you are ever watchful and your mercy endures forever. Lord you know you perfect plan for this your daughter. lord i ask that you turn this for her good and not allow evil to prevail over her mind of home. Lord I ask that you heal her and this young man and make them into the persons you desire them to be. Lord if it is your desire for them to be reunited we ask that your will be done. And if you desire that she have another we ask that you prepare them both to come to fullness in you and then for you to bring them into marriage at the appointed time. Thank you Father God in the name of Jesus.

 

[Linus]

Welcome to CF!

Praying for healing, comfort, strength and peace in the name of Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!