I don't have children, but I've read a lot on rearing children (I don't know why, I'm weird and like to read family-centered things). Our parents spanked us growing up, and yet people tell me we were abused (which I've never understood). I respect my parents so much, I'm not scared of them, I don't fear them, because I know they were disciplining me, not beating me, not abusing me, not hurting me because they wanted to, or because they were angry.
The Bible says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of all knowledge. And since a lot of you are taking Christ's example as to how He treated people when He was on earth, and thus, this is how you will treat your children, I will do the same. We must fear the Lord, and know that the Lord can crush us at any second. Fearing the Lord is a
good thing. He disciplines us, and the Bible says he who does not discipline his son, does not love his son (Proverbs 3:12). Does discipline = spanking? Sure! For
some families, and it's not a
bad thing. I'm simply trying to point out, if it works for your child, then it works.
There is a difference between being abused by your parents, and being disciplined by your parents through spanking. Spanking works for some children. So does time-out, all kids are different. When I was a child, I would go to the train tracks near our house, and actually touch the trains that flew past me (I couldn't have been 6). My dad spanked me for doing that. I do know that if he had put me in time-out, I would have gone back to the tracks, because I wasn't afraid of a time-out. But fearing my father's punishment was the beginning of knowledge for me, and I never went back.
But for other kids, a time-out, or another type of discipline would have done them justice.
You probably don't appreciate this from a teenaged girl, but I just thought I'd give my $0.02.