Giving up on what I know is right.

[paul123]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

 

[JPPT1974]

No as I plan on
Giving my spouse the gift of virginity
On our wedding night or remaining celibrate
If I am single for the rest of my life
As that is up to God
Good question btw!

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I think it all depends on what one's boundaries are. Sometimes, one can go too far, and it might be helpful to back off a bit. But certain biblically established principles such as chastity until marriage should never be compromised.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Your lack of care is frightening, do you not want to please God? We're to walk in the spirit, right? Not the flesh? I guess I'm no good at this, since I'll never understand.

 

[GQ Chris]

Yeah I have come close, and it is a battle and continues to be. And its tough when you're a fairly outgoing A type personality and also a Christian striving to stay pure. I can identify a lot with King David.

 

[SonicBOOM]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

I get this from time to time.... though I honestly get reminded that when i want sex, what I usaully REALLY want is intamacy. Sexaul pleasure is nothing without a soul connection with someone.

here's something that might help ya

Hebrews 11:24-27 (New International Version)


24By faith Moses, when he had grown up, refused to be known as the son of Pharaoh's daughter. 25He chose to be mistreated along with the people of God rather than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a short time. 26He regarded disgrace for the sake of Christ as of greater value than the treasures of Egypt, because he was looking ahead to his reward. 27By faith he left Egypt, not fearing the king's anger; he persevered because he saw him who is invisible.

 

[penNpaper]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

Everyone has a choice in regards to their own purity state of mind, body, spirit, as well as the heart.

As myself struggling in purity, I have thought about why does it matter and my life partner could be a virgin or not and so on. I thought about it from the right to the left and I come to one conclusion.

Would you rather pour out your heart and spirit to someone that loves you for the Man of God under God's Blessing and save that special night on your wedding night. Sure Christians are human beings too, we all have that desire because God created sex and that special bond between a husband and a wife.

I rather make love to my wife than just any girl that may break my heart is what my opinion lies. Why tick off the big guy upstairs you know, He knows where you live!!!

I'm reserving that night for one woman and that will be my wife, whoever it may be.

Regards,
Drew

 

[septemberskies]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

I've been frustrated before. I find myself running through various scenerios on "What if I gave up on purity?" Everytime I think of it, it never plays out well.

Although it may be hard to see now, it's worth it.

Another thing is, I use to think that people of the world (or so-called Christians that had no regard for purity) were happier but it's just the opposite. I rather be where I am right now.

Just hang in there ok?

 

[brideofYeshua]

I gave that up when i was sixteen and regretted it.
Don't give up your purity, waiting is so much more special.
I thank Yahweh that He has made me pure again through baptism, though.

 

[catofhope]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

NO, I never wanted to give up on my purity.
Was never a struggle at all over the years.

Since I am now engaged it has become more of an issue very recently.
But that's natural to want to be close when we are committed to each other.

We keep reminding each other I've waited this long ... just a few more days.
It helps that my fiance appreciates my gift of virginity to him on our wedding night.

 

[Cordelia]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

I felt like that, and got into a sexual relationship that ended very badly and left me emotionally very unwell. Look beyond the happy facade that people put up and see that you're not missing very much at all

 

[Niels]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

It can be a daily struggle... but that's life. Worthwhile goals take effort to achieve. The same principle applies in this situation. Keep striving, even when you don't feel like it.

 

[deliciousBass]

I get this from time to time.... though I honestly get reminded that when i want sex, what I usaully REALLY want is intamacy. Sexaul pleasure is nothing without a soul connection with someone.

here's something that might help ya

I am the same way... I crave intimacy. I suspect that Paul feels the same way since he mentioned not liking to see his friends happy (which is kind of odd) but what he doesn't realize is that they're not necessarily happy because they are having sex all the time, but because they have a special someone..

I felt like that, and got into a sexual relationship that ended very badly and left me emotionally very unwell.

Yes ma'am. That is a good point you bring up. Paul, what Cordelia mentioned is just one of the many side effects of giving up on purity.

 

[kingoffools13]

Has anyone got to the point where they just don't care and want to give up on purity? Or has anyone given up and have some two sense to put in?
I'm at the point where I kind of don't care. I hate to see all my friends living happy lives in the world. It makes me think that I'm missing out.

This has to be a common thing. Am I just way off?

Heck yeah, thats not even an occasional struggle, its perpetual.


There are 2 sides to this; you have personal and spiritual aspects.

First things first, spiritually, the "right" thing to do is wait, wait and save it, save it no matter what even if it kills you .... ok that might be over doing it but you get the point. It is a simple "rule", if you will, that God gave us and it doesn't have loop holes (perhaps you can make some argument about rape as a cause for losing your virginity, no its not a sin, but then thats not "giving" it up either so it wouldn't be)

now secondly there is the personal side, apart from from the spiritual aspects you have all of your personal emotional and physical feelings on the subject. I'll be honest, if this were all that mattered, i would probably suggest that you dont wait. Given the day and age, the chances that you will actually find someone else that has waited for you are slim to none. Some do, but dont expect much. This is the part that will be the hardest to deal with, because while you know that its a sin in your heart, the rest of you knows that the odds are stacked against you, and you are most likely gonna get the short end of the stick.

I remember back when i was 20 and 22 feeling like you do, and what no one else is going to tell you, but you should probably know, is that if you have those feelings now, they will only get worse and harder to tame as time goes on, short of supernatural intervention from God (and i'm still in the waiting line for that myself).

This is one of those things where all i can tell you is that its the right thing to do, there isn't really much solace beyond that. You have a choice to make, either take the high road and tough it out (character building, exercises self control), or just get it over with and face whatever consequences that may present if and when they come.

K
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[BoazB]

Been there, but didn't do it... and didn't need a T-shirt.

There is nothing like the frustration when you think that life is passing you by, but remember this ...

If she says yes to exual activity, (easy yes), than she has probably done it before. And only once with the dreaded disease is a nail in the coffin.

And any sex that is a sin, is not "safe sex".

Besies this, there are always people watching us to see the right way... we can never lead them astray.