Gift giving

[GaelSong]

I have a friend at church who is living on the bread line and when her birthday came up recently I bought her a nice gift of soap and talc. Ever since she has been avoiding me. I don't know if I overstepped the mark or not but wanted her to have something nice. What do you think? Was it an inappropriate gift or is she just uncomfortable with receiving gifts.

 

[AngelDove1]

God bless your heart.
You ment well.Maybe shes just ashamed of where shes at in her live.

Don't let this stop you from showing your friendly love and caring heart.

 

[TheDag]

with all due respect the only person who can answer your question is your friend. I have had some friend who have been worried that I've stepped over the line. After talking to my friends things were cleared up and we were able to get on well again. Maybe if you are both single she thinks you mean to be more than friends and she doesn't wish to encourage that at the moment. You just need to make sure you raise the subject in a tactful way without making accusations and hopefully things will be cleared up. They won't clear up unless you talk to your friend. I'm sure you meant well and that is great but sometimes other things happen which cause people to mis-interpret your actions.

 

[GaelSong]

Gosh, Dag, I hope my motives weren't misunderstood. We are both happily married! I think maybe I'll have to say something to her, I have always found her to be very devout and humble.
And thanks for the encouragement, AngelDove. I won't let this stop me from being generous to the next person that comes along...sigh...

 

[wonderwaleye]

I have a friend at church who is living on the bread line and when her birthday came up recently I bought her a nice gift of soap and talc. Ever since she has been avoiding me. I don't know if I overstepped the mark or not but wanted her to have something nice. What do you think? Was it an inappropriate gift or is she just uncomfortable with receiving gifts.

Dear Xxkingskidxx


Maybe she thought you where suggesting she STINKS!!!


You NEVER know whats in a persons mind if you don't communicate.


Talk to her and ask if she is avoiding you and if so WHY???
Let her know you think a lot of her and miss her company!!!


JUST REMEMBER:




X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven

 

[Robskiwarrior]

Dear Xxkingskidxx


Maybe she thought you where suggesting she STINKS!!!

lol thats the first thing I thought of when I read it

Best to have a chat with her eh?

 

[silentpoet]

I agree with much of the advice. I have never had much success with reading minds, so I have to ask people.

 

[GaelSong]

Thanks for the advice people....my mum always buys me a ton of soaps and other stuff like that for my birthday and it does me more than a year...maybe she thinks I stink too LOL...I was just trying to be kind, now have to tell her she smells ok anyway LOL

 

[AngelDove1]

AngelDove. I won't let this stop me from being generous to the next person that comes along...sigh...

your an angel...

 

[DIANAC]

Very perceptive!

 

[DIANAC]

That is so funny!
My MIL is famous for giving her daughters and granddaughters gifts of soap, powder, antiperspirant, etc. It's a motherly thing to do. Obviously, there are gifts we can give our family that can be misunderstood by anyone else.
However, when you see that lady, just ask her if she liked your choice of soap. Tell her that this is your mother's gift of choice. DO NOT discuss body odors with her.
I am still laughing.
Diana

 

[beehoney]

That is so funny!
My MIL is famous for giving her daughters and granddaughters gifts of soap, powder, antiperspirant, etc. It's a motherly thing to do. Obviously, there are gifts we can give our family that can be misunderstood by anyone else.
However, when you see that lady, just ask her if she liked your choice of soap. Tell her that this is your mother's gift of choice. DO NOT discuss body odors with her.
I am still laughing.
Diana

Very tactful Diana.

 

[GaelSong]

thanks everyone, boy, next present I give will be a box of chocolates even if the person is overweight! LOL

 

[wonderwaleye]

thanks everyone, boy, next present I give will be a box of chocolates even if the person is overweight! LOL

Dear Xxkingskidxx




L O L

YOUR A SWEETHEART!!!




I BET YOU WILL!!!





X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven

 

[TheDag]

thanks everyone, boy, next present I give will be a box of chocolates even if the person is overweight! LOL

Can I be the next recipient of a gift from you then please pleeeeeease!
I like chocolate!

 

[GaelSong]

Can I be the next recipient of a gift from you then please pleeeeeease!
I like chocolate!

no problem dag