Several years ago my mom and I moved to California. She wanted to move because of family and because my grandma has ALS. She complained about our home state. My Mom admits she's depressed. She says moving has ruined her life, she hates her life, and feels there nothing she can do.
We also moved because we thought disability services would be better in California; they're worse.
I feel stuck in the middle of it. I can't drive to get away from it. Her mood is making my depression flair up too. I am crying a lot or anxious and irritable. I am also recovering from a bout of serious pneumonia that left me hospitalized.
I've been trying to empathize with her for the past three years. I suffer the same loneliness. My patience is running thin.
The obvious answer is move home. We bought a house here and mom is spending a lot of money to have it fixed so moving back may not be feasible. And we may not be able to get disability services again in my home state.
I've talked to God about this a lot but it isn't helping. I am asking my therapist for advice when I see her next. She is open to seeing a free counselor offered through churches but has yet to go. She says meds don't help.
That is the most frustrating thing; a loved one knowing they need help but not taking the necessary steps to get it.
We also moved because we thought disability services would be better in California; they're worse.
I feel stuck in the middle of it. I can't drive to get away from it. Her mood is making my depression flair up too. I am crying a lot or anxious and irritable. I am also recovering from a bout of serious pneumonia that left me hospitalized.
I've been trying to empathize with her for the past three years. I suffer the same loneliness. My patience is running thin.
The obvious answer is move home. We bought a house here and mom is spending a lot of money to have it fixed so moving back may not be feasible. And we may not be able to get disability services again in my home state.
I've talked to God about this a lot but it isn't helping. I am asking my therapist for advice when I see her next. She is open to seeing a free counselor offered through churches but has yet to go. She says meds don't help.
That is the most frustrating thing; a loved one knowing they need help but not taking the necessary steps to get it.
