- Sep 16, 2019
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TL;DR: How do I get over missing a guy God has definitely said no to? Logically I know why God has said no, and don't want to date Him, but when I see him interacting with other girls, I miss his attention...
So, last year, I met a guy at college. He was cute, funny, and most importantly, said he was Christian. We would hang out a lot one-on-one and text every day. A lot happened, but basically it turned out he only wanted friends with benefits...and was messaging other girls at the same time, possibly even had a long-distance girlfriend...
I know God didn't intend this, this was not the start of a Christian relationship that God would approve of... (He was pretty straightforward, eventually, about wanting to be friends with benefits...I know it's not my place to judge his relationship with God--that's 100% between him and the Lord...but I know that any kind of relationship with him is not what God intends.)
After I confirmed 100% I did NOT want to be friends with benefits, send him selfies, etc., he stopped texting me every day and hanging out. This is fine, because I know the door is closed, but thing is...we still run in the same academic circles. We work at the same place and have classes together. We are friendly and sometimes text about work/school stuff--fine. Or so I thought...
When we're apart, I know why God closed the door. I know that I was never his priority and, even if he did care about me, it wasn't in a way that would lead to a godly relationship.
WhenI see him talking and flirting with other girls, though, I get jealous. He is easy to talk to and everyone thinks he's very nice, and he's confident with women, but it makes me just wonder...why wasn't I good enough? I know in my head that, like, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with me, but...I don't know.
Sorry for the rambling. Any advice on how to deal with this?
So, last year, I met a guy at college. He was cute, funny, and most importantly, said he was Christian. We would hang out a lot one-on-one and text every day. A lot happened, but basically it turned out he only wanted friends with benefits...and was messaging other girls at the same time, possibly even had a long-distance girlfriend...
I know God didn't intend this, this was not the start of a Christian relationship that God would approve of... (He was pretty straightforward, eventually, about wanting to be friends with benefits...I know it's not my place to judge his relationship with God--that's 100% between him and the Lord...but I know that any kind of relationship with him is not what God intends.)
After I confirmed 100% I did NOT want to be friends with benefits, send him selfies, etc., he stopped texting me every day and hanging out. This is fine, because I know the door is closed, but thing is...we still run in the same academic circles. We work at the same place and have classes together. We are friendly and sometimes text about work/school stuff--fine. Or so I thought...
When we're apart, I know why God closed the door. I know that I was never his priority and, even if he did care about me, it wasn't in a way that would lead to a godly relationship.
WhenI see him talking and flirting with other girls, though, I get jealous. He is easy to talk to and everyone thinks he's very nice, and he's confident with women, but it makes me just wonder...why wasn't I good enough? I know in my head that, like, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with me, but...I don't know.
Sorry for the rambling. Any advice on how to deal with this?